I cannot help the way I am, but I am always looking for perfect and my life has become far from it. I am 35 and find myself alone without any children because I was always searching for the perfect situation that never came. I find myself completely depressed now.
2007-01-28 06:10:40 · 6 answers · asked by SelfGrill 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Why do you view life as something that you have no control over. Your life is a result of your choices. As a child you don't have a lot of control over things but at 35 it is all on YOU.
Once you realize that your life is a series of your own choices you can begin to take ownership of it. If you don't like where you are, focus and envision where you want to be. Then decide what steps you will need to take to get you there.
God bless.
2007-01-28 06:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your doctor about anti-depressants. They really can help immensely with how you cope with day to day living and your thoughts and feelings about life in general. I want you to try telling yourself daily that you are as you think. This means if you choose to have positive thoughts then you will begin to live life with a more positive attitude. People who choose to look at things in a positive light find that they are happier in life. I feel that you would greatly benefit from counseling. You need help in realizing that nothing in life is "perfect"...nothing and no one and only you are responsible for your happiness. It is true that life does affect our day to day moods, but are attitude on a daily basis plays the biggest part in how we feel about life. At 35 your life is far from being over. You have so many good things in store for you. Please seek the help you need. It could be that you are merely suffering from a chemical imbalance which is causing your depression and negative thoughts. I sincerely hope you will take this advice...I wish you well. And just so you know, I am 54 years old and have raised 5 children entirely alone. I divorced when my youngest was 2 mos. old and my eldest just age 12. I was single (and didn't even date) for 10 years. I remarried and my husband died after just 4 short years of being married. I am still alone and I have had a lot of trials in my life, but I look at them as being a blessing. I like who I am today as a result of these trials. I am a stronger and better person. I am also a person of great faith and I assure you that there isn't anything that God can't handle. The best part about talking to him is that He never, ever tells anyone else and you can say anything to Him at all and know that your secrets are safe. I wish you well.
2007-01-28 06:40:09 · answer #2 · answered by ceegt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can I say ... I'm 25 and I've had a bulimia problem for almost 7 years .. I,ve always been waiting for something .. and avoiding living real life .. But since i understood it my life became color full I realize That I've never tried to follow my heart and my true needs .. As a matter of fact I liked it that way , because i could feel less responsible for my life .. I wanted my parents to feel guilty and everyone else but me . I was scared like a little baby .. So my short advice Is : Live Your life right now .. and paint Your life with Your color full dreams ;) Have You tried Affirmations ?? Try it ! It helps a lot !
2007-01-28 06:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by bereniczka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone to some degree in unsatisfied with all of their accomplishments. Try and appreciate life more, and stick with what u have, dwelling on all of your failures or trying to make a situation better than it already is, can be very unhealthy and tiring. Try adding fun activities to your life, go out and meet ppl! Enjoy your not old and u don't have to act it, just relax look at yourself in the mirror every single day and say to yourself all the things that make you special and all the things u are satisfied with.
2007-01-28 06:17:08 · answer #4 · answered by anonydipity_09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. i am never satisfied with life. i hate my home life in wisconsin, so i decided to pay for 6 months of living in spain with a host family. it sucks even worse than wisconsin, and its just as cold!!!!! other peopel are happy here, i have no idea why, getting themselves drunk, i´m too perfectionistic to go out at night. i´m depressed, and angry, and stuff becuase i am never satisfied because nothgin is the way i want it.
2007-01-28 06:15:03 · answer #5 · answered by the Bruja is back 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to reevaluate and open your self to possibilities.....and realize your expectations are way to high.....do this before you miss out on what you want in life.
2007-01-28 06:34:50 · answer #6 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋