Friend having issues of the heart?

Question

I've been pretty good friends with this girl K, for several years now, and she's always had several crushes every year. She'd like one guy, and a few weeks later turn to someone else. It was a bit annoying, but managable until last year. We'd gone to different schools for a year, and then in 9th grade, I find that she's pretty much getting a new crush every week! In gym class one day I'd hear all about how great one guy is, and the next day it was the other guy. Sometimes she stuck with this guy T, who she came back to liking every few weeks. Every once in awhile she tells the guy and gets her heart broken, and its always a big mess. Last summer she even dated one guy, but he turned out a complete jerk and her heart was broken again. Now she's been all over T for two weeks, but he really isn't the best guy for her. Then yesterday all out of the blue, it was someone else. I've told her before she needs to settle, and not flirt so much, but she tells me that's she's just like this.

It gets really hard on her friends and me having to hear about so many different guys all the time and support her during her heart breaks. She's always saying how she has too much on her mind, yet she doesn't get that sticking to one crush would really help her: emotionally and mentally. But how do I tell her this when she isn't really listening, and without hurting her feelings?
Oh, and she likes playing matchmaker for me and my friends which really annoys us.

Answer 1

tell her she needs to stop breathe and think explain to her how this makes you feel that you get annoyed and whatever also give her good reasons of why she shoudnt be after abijjillion different guys everday tell her she needs to calm down and focus on school and her friends tell her boys will come later and if she really likes a boy tell her that the boy will come to her=] and tell her how playing match maker annoys you too tell her you are very capable of getting some one you like on your own or set an example and tell her see i dont have to go after guys andi am just fine tell her that school and friends are more important and tell her that you feel as if you guys are drifting away that should work

Answer 2

hmm.... pretty tough, huh
i bet she had problem w her father
or maybe she has no daddy...
am i right??????????
those who have habit like that usually have no father figure, unstable, have premarital sex, have a lot of problems...

you dont want to leave her??
but you fell like leaving her alone w her problems...
and go on with your life...


hmm...
think.. think...think...
does her problems disturb your heart?
does her problems disturb your study?
does your problems consumme your time?
does her habit make you feel akward w those she was matchmaking you with?
is her habit not healthy for your life?
how long she will be doing this?? can you still loyal to her?
does what she said made you think bad about others??
does she gossip and make you think negatively towards others?
does you parents know this? did you ask your parents bout this?
what did they suggest you?
can you see the future with her as your friend?

it is true that you have to make friend w everybody..
but, if it is not healthy, her sickness also can become yours

you wont be effective with your time when her heart is broken
(you could have done a lot of good things and make a better mark, and advanced skil w the time that u used to listen to her, you know!!)

and it is important that you have to think positively about everyone...
sometimes (and always happen) that her input make you think negatively towards other...
and you are always cant trust others whom she talks bad about
it will make you have less opportunity to make friend with others
because of the garbage that she feeds to you

my advice is... withdraw youself from the group...slowly...
dont tell anybody that you've fed up w her... (otherwise your friend can tell her why you are always busy when she tries to call you)
ask your parents help to arrange an activity for you to help you ( like: asking to buy groceries..., or your mother ask you to go out w you, your father is helping you to study and doesnt want any interuption, telling you to learn sewing :) asking you to practice your music, etc)

look for good friends that never leave you when you are down..
that can encourage you when you r discouraged
that can lead you to good ways..
and make you a good person who will achieve success!!
make friends with those who have a good reputation,
who is friendly and have no habit like that!
hei, you know who i am talking about, right??

those who have a good mark...
though she is called wormbook...
but, you will see later...
that she has more success life than your friend

so...
be strong, girl!!
life is not easy!!
fight for your life!!
you cant repeat the time to do all over again....
so, dont prolong your missery...
decide now..

(write your decision in a piece of paper and put it in front of your mirror.... like "I will be an effective time spending..." "i will fight for my own good" "i will be a better person today!" "i am not the same person as yesterday")

dont say " i dont want to listen to her whinning anymore"
or something that make someone curious about the words... and can relate that easily with her....
bcoz sometimes your friend can come over to your house right??
:)

Answer 3

we all have those traits that are annoying about us, but that's just how we are. that's who she is, that's her personality flawed as it may be. Tell her how you feel but don't expect her to change who she is for you. There are things you can say that may make her realize she's like that, but most liekly she already knows what she's like, so you've just got to either deal with it or spend less time with her ifit really bugs you.