How come even when I am very horny, I still have a hard time getting wet when me and my husband want to have sex?
What can I do to get wet? Please only serious answers.
2007-01-28 05:51:31 · 13 answers · asked by stumped 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
This happens w/ me and my fiancee' all the time. I have been with him and only him for 5 years. My opinion about it is that maybe you're so used to the same sex over and over again. You love your partner to death I'm sure but you know exactly what to expect with the love making. Trying different things may help...
(Quickies are a turn on, different foreplay routines, add some toys maybe) but the best cure is to just use lubricant. When you get horny just put a little bit down there and ya'll are ready to go.
2007-01-28 11:01:12 · answer #1 · answered by Britni Gayle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you can, go to your doctor and tell him about your problem. I can tell you that he has heard and seen it all so your personal question will not be the first time he has heard it. Ask him if he has any personal lube that he can give you to help with your problem, may times doctors have free samples they can hand out if you ask.
Second, ask your doctor if there are any special tests that might help with your problem. If you have a hormone problem I am sure he can help get things right.
Third, by talking with your doctor I am sure you will feel better with the answers because he is a pro.
Fourth, ask your husband to give you more foreplay before you go to the next step. Many women need more time to get ready for intercourse and their husband don't realize it. The best intercourse starts well before you drop your clothes or hop into bed. Hand holding, sweet kisses, loving conversation, and love pats on the (fill in the blank) are helpful for a woman to catch up to her husband.
Fifth, if he gives you oral sex that helps you get damp and some personal lube will help too. You might even buy a vibrator to get your engine running, gals love those toys, but be sure to lube up first. BTW ("means by the way") if you have a store with a self check out you can buy most of this stuff and no one will ever know what you got.
Sixth, there are a number of kinds of lube so get the gel type because it lasts longer when you are both having fun. We have mixed two types of lubes to get that special "wet feel" that does the job.
Seventh, talk with your husband about this so he feels part of the solution and not the source of the problem. I know that my wife talked with me and gave me some things to try and then I did my own research too.
P.S. Go to www.durex.com and see if they have the kind of toys you might need. I just bought one for my wife and we will try it on Feb. 14th. I am sure that some of the other ladies that read this might have some websites, toy sites, and lubes that will help you out. I know that this is a real problem right now but don't give up and please feel free to e-mail me if you need more ideas or helpful chats. Enjoy each other all you can and make those special memories that will keep your heart warm too.
2007-01-28 07:30:40 · answer #2 · answered by sirwilliam1st 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not get embarassed by this. Your body is governed by hormones that you can't control and goes through many changes as you age. Just relax and use some lubricant to get you started. You body will follow along.
2007-01-28 05:55:36 · answer #3 · answered by qtpie2526 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can try foreplay (oral sex, or finger penetration) before copulation. KY Jelly always helps.
Have you talked to you physician about this? Sometimes certain medications, douching, or hormonal changes can make women a little dry.
Good Luck
2007-01-28 05:57:57 · answer #4 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need a good foreplay..or maybe just watch a porn movie with your husband before you play.....
Do you think about something else when your husband sends his signals? or do you love your husband at all?...You should get wet as soon as he's home.... its your duty!
2007-01-28 06:13:13 · answer #5 · answered by manpo2k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest to ask a gynecologist. That way you could be checked and asked some personal questions.
2007-01-28 05:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think some women don't get wet until they come. Just use K-y jelly.
2007-01-28 05:55:17 · answer #7 · answered by duh-duh27 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
could be anything. it could be a hormone imbalance, lack of foreplay, anything really. it's no big deal though. just buy some personal lubricant and call it good.
2007-01-28 05:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you on ANY medications? This could be a side-effect. Ask your doctor.
2007-01-28 05:59:37 · answer #9 · answered by amtrakjanet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hormone levels may be low, I would talk to your gyno about that.
2007-01-28 05:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋