My bf and I of over 2 years have agreed tot ake a break to focus on our schooling , we are both sophmores in a community college. i didnt want to agree to it. but i decided it would be the best thing for him. he says we will most liekly eget back togehter (theres a good chance) i made him upset the other day by texting him and asking questions. which later resulted in him swearing at me. and hanging up on me a bunch of times. i asked him if he still oved me just to bring me some comfort. and he was being cruel saying "we arent dating anymore i dont have to love you right now, I dont have to answer you" i konw he was jst angry at me an probabaly didnt mean those things.He said we would talk every sunday. i fought wiht him to talk more than once a week.. since i think our relationship means more to us than that.. he called me twice later that night and twice yesterday.. well since its sunday "our on day a week to talk" should i even bother talkign to him ? i really dont want to..
2007-01-28 05:36:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but we were arguing and he sarted to threaten me by saying :how aotu we talk once a month? yeah i think we'll do that, now once a week isnt sounded to bad huh morgan?" hes was just being a real jerk. i apologized for text messaging him and everythin. but he has called me 4 times the past 2 days... and today is our day to talk. should i even talk to him? i want to tell him how much he hurt me and ow i dont deserve to be treated liek that. ive never seen him that nasty to me before.. our relationship befre hand was really good. we have gret communication shkills nd resolve our issues quickly and peacefully yet i dont know what to do with this one. since "we arent dating anymore" .....
2007-01-28 05:38:47 · update #1
sorry for all of my spelling.....
2007-01-28 05:39:39 · update #2
and he ISNT SEEING SOMEONE ELSE! we doint lie to eachoter. we have a very honest adn open relationship.... he works over 40 hours a week. and is takign the highest level of math and physics classes at school as well as a few other classes. he wanted to take a break twice last semester to focus on school btu i was stubborn. so i decided just to say yes for this semester...
2007-01-28 05:41:47 · update #3
he isnt abusive. he had an abusive dad which made me surprised he wasnt abusive. he has never put a finger on me. and has never emotionally abused or verbally either... he knows if he did i woudl leave..
2007-01-28 05:43:41 · update #4
im positive he isnt with someone else.. he has always been with me and always tells me he would never want to be with someone else if anythign were to ever happen between us. we were gettign serious we have talked abotu marriage a few times.. but that wouldn be for a few more years after we complete school....
2007-01-28 05:45:18 · update #5
he has always been caring and nice to me but i know i made him angry by texting himi first thing in the mornign and while he as in class. (he really hates that) but he has called me 4 times.. and it ISNT sunday! well it is now. but the other times it wasnt.. i only said we shoudl tlak more cause i knew hed be calling me "miss hearing my voice" and we always make compromises together.. but he has been being a coward and hangin up...
2007-01-28 05:49:19 · update #6
we both agreed to take a break.. he is stressed with school and works over 40 HOURS a week. which i know is stressful. he says he just can handle the relationship right now and he told me he is sorry for that.... but says he still loves me ut wont say "i love you" on the phone to me anymore cause its "only for peopel who dat, and we arent dating" according to him which i think is the lamest thing ive ever heard in my life....
2007-01-28 08:32:39 · update #7
Honey I know you were with him for two years, and its gonna be hard, but you need to move on. He is not good for you, and you can do way better. If he really loved you, he would be begging to call YOU. think about it. It sounds like he has another chick honestly. I know that isn't what you want to hear, but as a third party looking in, somethings not right there. WE have the vagina, WE are supposed to be in control. Remember that, he might be the king, but you're the princess damnit, and you deserve to be treated as such. Anything less is unacceptable.
2007-01-28 05:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by X-tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not something you can turn on and off you either love than and now or you never loved me at all, look at it like this right now you are responding to his word he can say anything I'll love you today tomorrow twice a week what even, but look deeper love is shown be a person action toward another and form what i have read he sure doesn't act like a person that in love.
separate yourself form him focus on yourself and your life why subject yourself to such pain it only make you feel bad don't let him have that much control over you and your emotion, if he want to call let him call but don't talk to him if you feel he only trying to upset OK (do i want to feel this way right now?) It sound like he my have other things going on anyway and need time to do what ever it is. I have learned that a person speak a whole lot of truth when they are mad why because they are trying to hurt you, and they know what works, they may say that there sorry later but what does that change you still feel what hurt and it impossible to forget, maybe as time goes by it won't hurt as bad
2007-01-28 05:59:53 · answer #2 · answered by Christian 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to talk, just answer the phone, talk a bit and tell him you don't feel like talking. He sounds like he is using you and you can do better. Too often relationships which start in school don't work out since one you gratuate you develop new friends, have more money to do things, and meet many new people with similar interests. If he threatened you, that is all the more reason to concentrate on school now and find someone else once you are out of school
2007-01-28 05:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's being quite immature, uncaring, and rude. Do you really think you should put up with that kind of crap? This whole thing about talking once a week or once a month seems really petty. If you don't want to talk to him, then don't. Don't force yourself to give in to what you don't want to do. Ask yourself, "Do I deserve this?, Do I need this extra emotional baggage?, and Do I love myself?" I hope you are able to resolve this issue and either move on, or make up.
2007-01-28 05:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by invisablechicchick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I think there is more to this. When someone tells you you need to take a break, that is the cowards way of telling you I don't want to see you anymore. Best for you to back off and leave him alone with his thoughts. If he wants to get back together with you, he will contact you.
2007-01-28 07:38:09 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing about you two getting back together should be considered a "good" chance. You might reunite, but it won't be good.
You didn't "make him upset," he responded in an asinine manner.
He threatened you? Bzzzt. Automatic dealbreaker. You're worth more than some putz who threatens you.
You don't want to talk to him? Yay! I encourage your not talking to him. I encourage your having nothing else to do with him. He's a rude boorish control freak with possible abusive tendencies.
Other than that, I'm sure he's okay.
2007-01-28 05:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I've ever seen a more detailed question.
I would change my phone number(s) and contact the police. Although it sounds like you do want to get back together with him. However, after his behavior that you've described, it wouldn't be a good idea.
2007-01-28 05:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by midjrsy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me, that he is just keeping you on a string, just in case he can't find someone else that he likes more. Dump him. He sounds like someone with a bad temper. I am sure he will harm you in some way. Stay away from that one my dear.
2007-01-28 05:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE MAKING EXCUSES FOR HIS ACTIONS.. STOP!!! HE IS TRYING TO END IT WTH YOU FOR A REASON. HE MAY NOT KNOW IF HE LOVES YOU OR HE IS INTERESTED IN ANOTHER. SORRY BUT THAT IS HOW GUYS ACT. HE IS CONFUSED ABOUT SOMETHING. THE FACT THAT HE STILL IS CALLING IS BECAUSE OF HABBIT MAYBE. THE CALLS WILL MORE THAN LIKELY FADE. YOU SHOULD MOVE ON.
2007-01-28 07:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by openminded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you have to ask, then you know in your heart the answer. DUMP him now. and get out. There are a lot of nice men out there. Find one and have a good life.
2007-01-28 08:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by grandmother of 5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋