Touchy situation. I am a teacher in a small school on the East Coast (no, I won't say exactly where). I became casual friends with a married couple (who are both teachers in separate nearby schools) who later divorced. I was always closer to the man than the woman, and had participated in several local events with him. There has always been somewhat of an attraction brewing (no, I was not the cause of their breakup) . I was in love with my ex and trying to make that work. My relationship with my ex fizzled, and ultimately his marriage ended. The woman is no longer active in our circle. We've reconnected recently, and the attraction is strong. Very strong. Is he considered off-limits because I was once aquaintances with his ex? She still teaches, but she's switched to another school district. I feel horrible for being attracted to her ex husband. I feel as if I will somehow hurt her for dating him, but it is really hard for us to hold back on this attraction. Any advice?
2007-01-28 05:24:39 · 8 answers · asked by Chloekitty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He has always been my friend. My ex and I used to spend a lot of time together with him. His ex wife and I were aquaintances because we are both teachers, but we never spent time together outside of district activities. My ex and I spend a considerable amount of time with the man...especially when he and his wife were going through rough times.
She's a very nice woman, but she and I were never close. The husband and I had served on a lot of committees together because we taught the same subject. (I haven't talked with her in almost a year.) I see her at events occasionally and we exchange hello and a hug, but that's it. The man and I have always gone out for drinks or worked together (with other people) on projects. So, as you can see, she and I weren't exactly the best of friends. We were aquaintances and he and I were friends. It's just that we are well-known in the community, and people do gossip. It would be the center of quite a bit of gossip if we acted on this.
2007-01-28 06:57:36 · update #1
If she's not in your circle...I don't see why not.
2007-01-28 05:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
specific, first you could consult with him and spot in case you the two sense ther is an danger for a significant realationship. in case you the two prefer to flow forward, then you definately've 2 alternatives. call her up and tell her whats occurring. (in case you dont consult together with her anymore then it shouldnt be too vast of a deal once you get the braveness) dont ask permission, purely enable her comprehend. Or 2d, it doesnt depend as long as shes no longer a particular pal. you wernt the reason of the breakup, and because they are divorced and shes no longer interior an identical college, then its no longer likely any of her company.
2016-11-01 12:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by wolter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was still in your school or in your social circle, I'd say unequivocably no. But, under the circumstances, I'd say, as long as you don't mind never having a friendship with her again, go ahead. Just be up front about it - don't sneak around.
2007-01-28 05:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't be a problem since she is no longer involved in the circle. Even if it was, they are split and so are you and your ex. Who cares if she were to have a problem with it.
2007-01-28 05:31:07 · answer #4 · answered by Derek Wildstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you don't have to ask society for permission to do something you know is o.k. If your hot for one another, then by all means jump in feet first. Have fun your not doing anything wrong, and why would she have to know anyhow?
2007-02-01 04:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by earthangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were never really friends with this woman then i don't see why not. If she was a good friend to you then i would say no.
2007-01-28 06:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems ok, just trust the Lord to guide you.
2007-01-28 05:29:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is short. Go for it.
2007-01-28 05:31:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋