from a a guys perspective how would you help your gf feel ok about getting close to you physically or if you wanted to ever have sex some day if you knew she had been rapped
2007-01-28 05:20:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yes, I would think it would be hard to let a guy near you.
IF your g/f was then don't pressure her, let her come to you. Make sure she can trust you, trust must be one of the biggest factors in your relationship. If she doesn't trust you enough she will never let you get close.
Good luck
2007-01-28 05:26:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal,! belive me I was rapped I'am now 46 years old but I was rapped by my brother , I still get that feeling of being rapped or beeing used but he rapped me from the time I was 7 until I was 17 then all hell let lose, he was black mailing me so no you never totaly get over it , SORRY AND GOOD LUCK I hope the best for you
2007-01-28 13:52:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be very normal to be scared or reticent about sex.
The best way to get beyond it--from the boyfriend's perspective--is to cultivate a safe, comfortable, supportive relationship and then wait for as long as necessary for that to take root and hold, so that she knows that you are both supportive, and not in it just for the sex.
2007-01-28 13:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by CP_Researcher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of times, there may not be a whole lot you personally can do other than be supportive of her.
She really should seek some counseling to help her thru her fears. If not, it can affect her in alot of area of her life in the future and she won't even realize it.
2007-01-28 13:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by MES 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into it. Take care of her. Protect her. Make her feel SAFE. She needs to feel secure and loved before she can go that extra step. Be understanding that it is very difficult for her. She may not trust you, but don't get discouraged.. you have to earn that trust. Good Luck!
2007-01-28 13:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by Britni Gayle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was raped when i was little and i was always a little nervous but not too bad but then when i fell in love with the most amazing guy i never felt so comfortable in my life and everything felt rite so then when i decided to have sex with him allof my fears of being open to someone went away. ive been with him now for 3 years and have never been happier
2007-01-28 13:38:42 · answer #6 · answered by ♥sexy_love♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is perfectly normal to not want to have a sexual relationship after having a traumatic sexual encounter. however, there is nothing that the man can do to make the woman feel comfortable. i would suggest that the woman seek some counseling.
2007-01-28 13:27:55 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it would be normal. you need counseling to get through all of your feelings and pain. you will never be completely comfortable being alone with some types of men
2007-01-28 14:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just support her and be their for her. and tell her that you care for her. and tell her you understand why she don't want to have sex, and tell her when she is ready to let you know. maybe she can have some kind of counsling so she can get over what has happen to her, good luck.
2007-01-28 14:25:19 · answer #9 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you learn to spell before you go posting the same question over and over?
2007-01-28 13:41:27 · answer #10 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋