he says we can look at it together, but won't give me password, or gives me password then changes it within 12 hrs. he claims I am just insecure and jealous. i feel if he wants a myspace pg then it should be an 'our' pg not his alone.
2007-01-28 05:13:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's not necessarily a question of trust. I don't think he has cheated on me. Obviously we have more issues than just this, but I feel he should include me in this part of his life (chatting with old friends, epsecially the good looking female ones). We have been together over 1 1/2 yrs and own a house together. Shouldn't (not all, but most) of his friends by mine too? Also, I felt he only gave me honorable mention in his 'about me' section. I did have a my space page but didn't see the use of it. My friends don't utilize it and all I did was go over to his (its set to private and I was a 'friend') and see his other 'friends' and comments here and there that never included anything about me. All that ever did was upset me so I deleted my account. In the current fragile state of our relationship I have told him that he could help my insecurities by bringing me in on this. I don't feel there is an 'us' any longer, but am trying a last ditch effort to regain 'us'.
2007-01-28 07:32:07 · update #1
those who have nothing to hide will hide nothing from u. so i would say there are some things on that page he really would rather u not see. marriage can't survive without any trust. he is hiding something from u and that is not a good sign.
2007-01-28 05:21:00 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First of all what is "mate"? Husband, boyfriend, partner or what? This says a bit about your relationship.
The case could be made that you are just being intrusive as it is a personal space issue. Even if you two were Ok he could see this as that you are monitoring him and don't trust him. This is often the reason that people DO start pulling away even if they never thought of it before. Computer snooping? Same thing in this day and age.
But........ he changed it so you could look and changed it again. If I was asked I wouldn't change it again as doing so implies guilt. If your relationship was solid this would not even come up. And what does a 40 something guy need with MySpace? To advertise and talk to the world when he has someone at home to devote to? If he cared and this was such an issue he would simply give it up.
Obviuosly you two don't have the basis of a relationship....... trust. This goes far beyond the web. Though it does sound like he is hiding something. The best way to cover when someone is doing something wrong is to accuse the other of something.
If you really want to know....... but not right is to open some odd email account and get on Myspace yourself. Then become his friend there (insert sexy picture). You will find out what is up. Sure working this out otherwise would be best but it is a thought.
Odds are it is pretty much over and you have to decide to wait or just take care of yourself and not have these issues.
2007-01-28 05:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously hiding something. I have my fiances password to his myspace and used to check it alot until I realized the only thing going on on his myspace were messages between him, his best friend and his cousin that were all "You comin saturday" "ok great"
lol
Confront him about it. Say maybe you are insecure and jealous but he's giving you a reason to be suspcious and if he has nothing to hide then you knowing the password shouldn't be a problem with him.
If he still makes a fuss about it I'd leave.
2007-01-28 05:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Danielle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't really want my partner to see my myspace either! She has her own page on another community site, and I don't fish through that or go through her messages and friend list. Privacy is privacy, let him have his online privacy, and don't be so insecure! If it's encroaching on your free time together then that may be an issue, but I believe people need their own space. I know I'd go mad if I didn't have some time to myself.
Sorry, you may not like this answer, but the responses have been a bit one-sided so far! Women like to have control over their men, but if you go too far you're only going to cause trouble one way or another.
2007-01-28 06:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Your Buddy Chris from the UK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in my 50s and have my own myspace page. This is not unusual, But the fact that he seems really worried about you accessing it is definitely a problem. I'd say he's erasing stuff before he lets you see it.
You're gonna have to decide if this is the hill you want to die on. Chances are, something is going on. But if you insist on continuing access, you could force him to do something he isn't ready to do - and might never do.
Your call.
2007-01-28 05:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Terri J 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My spouse and I are on myspace and have separate accts. We have many friends on there and we can see one anothers friends and comments because we are friends on eachothers sites. We trust eachother and that is what is about. If he has given you no reason not to trust in the past then my advise is get your own site and do what we do. Good luck. Myspace is not for idiots it is a site for friends. Not all of us are kids and use it to blog and bulletin etc. I am 51 and love it!
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2016-11-01 12:30:06 · answer #7 · answered by wolter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG the average age on myspace is 13 what the heck is he doing there?
2007-01-28 05:46:38 · answer #8 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Myspace is for teenagers. It sounds like he is up to something.
2007-01-28 05:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating...
Do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship without marriage.
2007-01-28 05:17:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋