2007-01-28 05:10:27 · 17 answers · asked by whyowhyowhysocomplicated 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
god its hard
2007-01-28 05:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by orphan boy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to control your feelings: You need to know what is worth having and what if not. Take time to write these things down and check off all people you meet against your list. Remember that your list need to include response to questions; DO you want to have children before you are 25?, an example. A question like this has a good purpose for you and let people be themselves.
With a good check list you will eliminate 95% of the beautiful people that will make your life a living hell and narrow it to 99% of the people that you are attracted to, that show that you will be compatible with.
You will then be able to follow your heart, and know that the end result is OK, if not great.
2007-01-28 13:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If anyone had the answer to this age old question then they would be worth a small fortune, or even a big one.
No if these feelings cannot be reciprocated or are not right due to your circumstances try walking away from it. So hard and oft times very very upsetting and distressing. However, if there is not an obstacle in your way what is the problem? Go for it.
2007-01-28 13:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason why you cant control your feelings, maybe because you are with someone and they are and you shouldnt be doing wrong, otherwise you,d fall for this person big time without hesistation! so think of the outcome. of loved ones getting hurt, and you could end up really sad, think logical,
2007-01-28 13:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you believe so it is done unto you...
Why would you want to not fall in Love?
Love is one the healthiest emotion Humans have.
You can use your imagination to create an illusion in your mind that makes you happy
The person you Adore now becomes beautiful and you feel good about it, So you don't want to fall for the person, well make it work, for every action is an equal and opposite reaction use that also to much of a good thing will destroy it smother her or him with your love and she or he will run for cover out of your sight for ever.
Become wise, wise men never fall in love...
2007-01-28 13:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by Infinite and Eternal Reality 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard thing to accomplish. The best thing would be to stay away from this person and don't have any phone contact with them if they don't have to be in your life as a boss or fellow worker. If you have to see them, I think you will have a very hard time controling the feelings. good luck
2007-01-28 13:17:16 · answer #6 · answered by flutterby_bluesky 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By no means is this a solution, but I always find these huge faults in people I once liked....try looking for bad points to convince yourself this person is not the one!
2007-01-28 13:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Distance yourself and act as though youre not bothered about them the pretence will eventually become so much of a habit that youll believe it yourself.
2007-01-28 17:34:03 · answer #8 · answered by The Way 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say take a minute and think about your feelings and what it is about the person that makes you like them. They will have their faults just like anyone but if you've fallen for them you won't see or care about the bad traits.
This is very difficult.
2007-01-28 13:25:59 · answer #9 · answered by swiftlycomputerizedbrutes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very hard. Stop all contact because time does really heal most things. You can also try replacement. Replace this person with someone or something elts.
2007-01-28 13:22:42 · answer #10 · answered by nikole s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant help falling for someone
If that person isn`t available you can try to hide your feelings
but you cant help falling in love
2007-01-28 13:15:05 · answer #11 · answered by Black Orchid 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋