do you agree that"cheating in the heart is still cheating"?

Question

someone here told me this painful statement , although i didn't go for cheating and will never do such a sin..am having a difficult time when love invaded my heart suddenly while i will never dare to break my family..am i cheating?

Answer 1

No, I definitely do not agree. We are all human and no matter who you are, you will eventually have feelings for someone else. The only difference between a cheater and an honest person is self-control. You should be proud of yourself that you respect your family enough not to act on the urges of love, because we all now that they can be very strong!

Answer 2

thats hard to say... you can have an emotional relationship without a physical one. You need to ask if you are showing the same emotional attention and feelings that you showed before you met this new person? I think emotional change in feelings is more obvious than if you were physically cheating. saying that you would never break your family by cheating is good, but if you stay in a relationship that you are obviously not happy in, is cheating yourself too, and maybe more damage than if you physically cheated. It makes for badly hurt spouse, loneliness, arguments, posessiveness, and the kids see and pick up on all these feelings and their feelings change, and they dont need to see unhappiness. they need to see that people need to be happy, not sad, and that one needs to make their own decisions & to not be hateful to one another, be honest & just because people dont stay together, doesnt mean all relationships end badly. Ex's can be even closer because of the honesty and acceptance and respect that they showed each other during the split. "do unto others." People change & everyone is different... everyone forgets that when its someone elses problem. good luck

Answer 3

Cheating involves betrayal, what you felt was a momentary emotion..not love at all. Love involves commitment. You're human, not an android. It's likely from time to time you're going to feel many different things for different people but as long as you internalize and don't act on these things you're just fine. It's nothing to worry or feel guilty about..and please don't tell your significant other, you're entitled to your private thoughts. But if you've had an ongoing something with someone else that had to led to love feelings it's time you really explore how commited and satisfied you are with your current relationship that would allow you step outside of the bounds of your commitment and make a decision whether you need/want to stay or go. You owe your partner at the very least honesty and respect. If you're holding up your end of the bargain of the bargain you need to set them free.

If you're thinking of cheating (sinning) from a religious perspective. God views cheating as cheating whether it's thought or action. You will need to ask for his forgiveness.

Answer 4

Jesus said that if you look at another person with lust in your heart, you've already committed adultery in your heart. And "as a man thinks, so he is." So yes, fantasizing about another person while married is heart-adultery. If you really don't want to break up your family, avoid this person. If you want the person's "love" or whatever more than you want a stable family environment, get a divorce.
I understand that this looks like the "one true thing" but the trouble is you won't know if that's true until you've already broke it. What I don't understand is why you stuck with a loveless marriage in the first place.
If your values didn't allow you to break a loveless marriage then, they won't now. the only thing that has changed is your emotions...and those change like the wind.

Answer 5

Cheating is cheating. However, being human is part of what we all deal with. I'm very open to my partner and will never cheat but I do have an active fantasy life. In telling your partner you will find a new freedom that allows you to share all of yourself...even the things that some shy away from. Don't be so scared as to not tell them, you may be surprised to find that they as well have had these thoughts.

Answer 6

I believe that cheating in the heart is worse than physical cheating and it's harder for you since you can't stop it from happening. Even though you might be able to resist physical cheating, if you fall in love with someone, there's nothing you can do to get them out of your system and it hurts!
You've got to decide if you have the will power to just carry on or if you ave to admit to it. Be warned though, if you 'do the right thing', there'll be no going back and you'll hurt far more people than just yourself - you have to decide if it's worth telling the truth just to appease your own conscience.

Answer 7

Sorry to say but yes it is. It's called emotonally cheating you spouse. For as long as you let another person invade ur heart where ur spouse use to be...it's definately cheating & harmful to continue it. Don't "tempt the Devil He WILL win every time; he's had several thousands of years to practice". Stay away from temptation. NEVER see that person who has stolen ur heart again unless u wish to destroy ur family. And it will, just a matter of time. Take care of ur wife...and kids. But MOST important, LOVE THEM.

Answer 8

Yes unfortunately ur emotionally cheating.. doesnt mean u should be burned at the stake for it or anything, but yes its not good, in ur vows u said to "forsake" all others.. and that includes mentally although i think most do from time to time..but its nothing but a fantasy, as long as u dont let it interfere with ur marriage , or substitute ur fantasy for your spouse..usually it fades away, so as long as u dont act upon it and try to view it as nothing more then a temporary fantasy.."lust" , "infactuation" etc, rather then actual love.. i dont think its anything to be to concerned with.. I think everyone probably has a fleeting moment of "what ifs" , or what could of been..moments.. doesnt mean they'd cheat, or that they'd do anything to hurt their spouse..or their family, its just a fleeting moment..

Answer 9

Yes i sure do feel that that is still cheating... The Bible says in the Book of Matthew some where that if a man looketh upon a woman to lust after her he already has commited adultery in his hear and the woman does too if she lusts in her heart after a man. Same thing in God'e eyes.

Answer 10

if it is a crime, then many many husbands and wives would be criminals. it is important to be faithfull, but it is possible to love many people emotionally and spiritually.
This all starts from the wrong point that you can only "love" one person and when that happens you should forego all others. Life is not so convenient.
Perhaps it is better to start by loving yourself and when that happens it is possible to love others, but never to make that possessive or jealous love. Cheating then would not exist.