Who comes first in your relationship, spouse or kids?

Answer 1

the kids should come first then the spouse.

Answer 2

It should always be your spouse, but guys need to understand there are times a mom has to tend to the basic needs of her children! My children are loved and cared for. God says my prorities should be God, husband and then children. If both parents take care of the kids there can be time for each other. Eventually the kids grow up and it is just the two of you again, so it is not good to neglect each other!

Answer 3

This is,in essence,a stupid question simply because there are times your spouse comes first and there are times when the kids need to come first.You cannot say that your spouse takes priority over the kids or the other way around because each have their own individual needs and indeed crises over and above the all inclusive family needs of love,time,support,interest and empathy.
Given that you have limitations of say time or cash,then you share out what you have and both parents will generally go without for the sake of the kids-each parent understanding that the "sacrifice" is mutually agreed between them both in recognition of and desire to meet parental love and responsibility.That done then its time to prioritize your own relationship without forgetting-on the very odd occasion- giving time and love to yourself!!

Answer 4

Well I disagree with most answers. YES, my children are the most important people in my life BUT sometimes my Husband does come first...
Ex. - kiddos are supposed to be in bed and they keep getting up, Hubby and I are trying to have some time to watch a movie and send time alone.
At that point my husband does come first, I have gotten my kiddos to bed and they are taken care of.

If I didn't have a good marriage then my kiddos wouldn't be as happy. We have a great balance in our home. My children know that I love them more then my own life and so does my Husband. Neither ever wonders how important they are to me.

Answer 5

I have always believed the kids come first. God picks us to care for his innocent ones till they are able to care for themselves. You don't say if this is a blood parent/spouse- if it is Shame on them for making you feel like pooh! If this is a step parent/spouse-Double Shame!! First! you call a shrink to help get your head straighter about who IS the most important you and the kids!#2 Ask spouse to go to get over (stupid) jealously.#3 If spouse won't, kick him/her to curb! No one more important than you and kids!!! .

Answer 6

A child is born completely dependent on someone else to take care of his needs. So because you chose to have sex and a life resulted...that life take precedent over even our own needs until the time comes that the child can see to their own needs and take care of themselves Your spouse is or should be able to take care if his/her self and if they can't you better think seriously about the relationship. Now, that said...that doesn't mean you should not take time to spend with your spouse. They still need some of your attention and affection.

Answer 7

in my opinion the spouse comes first because you are both responsible for your children's well being and if the parents aren't emotionally healthy neither will the kids. it's our responsibility to keep all aspects of our lives well to ensure having a happy and healthy family.

Answer 8

kids are a blessing from god and they are made from both of you and her but you always save a little time for your soulmate after the kids are in bed that why you have bed time so you can have that time for each other

Answer 9

if u have a marriage and their are children involved. ur children come first no matter the circumstances.. ur children are the most important people in this world.. u mate comes after kids, and he/she should know that.. if they can't understand that then there is something wrong with them.. ur children should be placed 1st in everything u do and if they are not then u should rethink ur choices and decision in life.

Answer 10

Your an idiot.... what u think???? dumb @$$