My boyfriend keeps popping the question during sex! I realize that guys will say anything at that critical moment, but this happens early and mid-nookie. The last time that it happened he asked, "will you marry me?" only a minute or two into sex then several minutes later(but still a long time before orgasm) he asks "I'm serious, will you really marry me?" I typically answer in the affirmative, I don't want him to get offended even though I obviously am that he would bring something up like that during sex. We have talked about getting married when we're not having sex but never anything in the form of a question and it's usually more of a "sometime in the future" discussion. I don't know what to think, is he just saying things like this because we're so intimate or are his inner thoughts just coming to fruition during sex? I never bring it up after sex because I don't know that I should. What's the deal?
2007-01-28 04:50:16 · 13 answers · asked by justpeachee22 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
More info...He had sex with a lot of girls before me. And I am getting a ring for my birthday/Valentine's Day(supposed to be a promise ring)...and yes it is great sex ;) Don't know if this changes anything...
2007-01-28 05:07:43 · update #1
I don't think any of us can answer that for you. You really need to sit down w/ your man (when both of you have your clothes on) and talk about it. It could be that the idea of having you forever just really gets his rocks off (I once heard of a girl who didn't want kids ever, but used to scream "make me a baby" during sex *shrug*) and it could be that he's trying to assure himself that you really do love him. As I say though, that's a discussion that you two really need to have together.
2007-01-28 04:59:30 · answer #1 · answered by cornsss 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
1.He's had too much to drink
2. He wants you to say "Yes, Yes, Oh Yes"
3. He wants this to happen all the time
4. Maybe he says the same thing to someone else knowing
there will be no yes answer. (wants you to believe you are the only one in his life)
Would you like the computer to take away two of the wrong answers for your 50/50 lifeline?
Give me a break. Sure did want us all to know it lasted a long time, like spearment gum. I'll bet the flavor was gone quicker than that.
2007-01-28 05:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by wizardpoof 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe to him it's symbolic of your surrender to him. Some guys think it's really awesome to have their gal totally at their mercy sexually. If he asks you the "ultimate question" (as long as the answer isn't "42") during whoopie and you say yes, maybe to him that's the ultimate act of surrender. I mean, it's obviously some kind of turn on for him or he wouldn't do it. Have you tried responding negatively when he does it? I bet his libido goes from 60 to 0 in a matter of seconds.
2007-01-28 06:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont buy what he is saying especially during your sex moment. respect yourself girl, dont be fooled. love is not emotion but a choice. you can talk this to him what your concerns are, afterall he is your boyfriend right? you two must have an open verbal communication, that is very important in relationship, its ok if you bring it up after sex because you have the right to know if he is the right man for you.
2007-01-28 05:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by blue violet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend how you feel about him and that you would marry him someday but you don't want him saying it in the sac because.... Don't read too much into it, I'm sure he's just expressing himself, guy style. That's the closest thing he can come up with to the feeling of estacy.
2007-01-28 05:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bring it up afterwards if I were you. If he doesn't really mean it then he should stop proposing during sex.
2007-01-28 04:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will tell you a story. One man saw a beautiful girl. He wanted her to go with him. She agreed. He went to a jewelery Shop and asked for an ornament. The shopkeeper showed him on e for $1000.00. The man was angry. He said " What? she deserve much more than that. Show me one for $25000.00." He then booked the costly one. He didn't have the money so he gave a cheque. He said that he is very honest and will take delivery of the ornament only when the cheque is realized. He went home with the girl. The next day, he went alone to the jewelery and said that he does not have enough money in the bank so he will not be buying the necklace and took his cheque back. When asked, he replied:" I never wanted to buy that but by showing that I am going to buy it for her, she cooperated with me so well that I will never forget that night in my life. ....
2007-01-28 05:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by atom45 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm, since you two have spoke about marriage before sex, then he could very well be serious. Sometimes, people cannot bring out their inner thoughts until they are engaged into intimate interaction.
Keep us posted ;)
2007-01-28 04:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by rosie768 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sex before marriage?? hmm....
Not a good start!!
how will you/him trust him/you completely if you/him cant control your lust before marriage??
when you will be away from each other.... you can think "what he is doing?? is he with other woman? he did sex with me when we were dating, he can do it also even now when we r married with other woman. can i trust him completely when he is away??"
girl!!! think about the consequences of having premarital sex.....
it can ruin your marriage!!
if he cannot control his lust now... he wont be able to control it later...and he will just do it w other woman!!
dont say that your love is forever...
if there is no man-woman love that never "tasteless" after a period of time....
you can get angry and regret your marriage....
he can too....
and your marriage will be under the test!!
it will be pass easier if you never have premarital sex...
marriage life is so complex. very complex.
dont make you marriage harder!!
2007-01-28 05:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by citra 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He could just be getting caught up in the moment. Bring it up right after sex, or better yet, stop, cool down and talk to him about.
2007-01-28 04:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by kc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋