not trust her more and more everytime I catch her . Could this lead to bigger lies ? What should I do ?
2007-01-28 04:25:08 · 19 answers · asked by jsjmlj 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Confront her and let her know that you don't want to be lied to. I don't think it will lead to bigger lies. I think that she is embarrassed that she smokes. It is an awful habit.
2007-01-28 04:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then let her smoke or help her quit. Does this make her any less of a person that she smokes? Is there some reason why she feels she can't tell you the truth? Think about it. Talk to her about it so she feels she doesn't need to lie. And no, just because she lied about that, doesn't mean she is going to lie about everything. You are blowing this way out of proportion! If you love her help her! She probably just doesn't want to let you down and feels that she is. And also, who are you to TELL her she can't smoke. It's her right. It's her life.
2007-01-28 04:40:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Dane 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always the possibility that it could lead to larger lies but if she has been honest with you to date other then the smoking I would suggest not. In my opinion she is either embarrassed or ashamed of going back to the addictive habit of smoking. I would suggest that you speak with your wife and let her know how proud you are of her for attempting to remove this habit from her life but that you can understand if she falls and will be there for her regardless. There is a new method (that I'm going to give a try as it has worked for my boss) and it is called Resolve. It is merely some type of mint lozenges and the person is to take 10 of these a week. Cost is $30.00 for a week supply (in Canadian funds) and my boss has gone from being a pack and a half smoker to having only 3 per day in the past month. Best of luck to your wife giving up this habit and to you in realizing that she is attempting to quit. Also hopefully you will not allow this small untruth to put less faith in your wife.
2007-01-28 04:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to defntly comprehend your spouse and also you in this concern.... She in all likelihood needs to stop, even though it is more desirable sturdy then you genuinely imagine. Please comprehend that it is likewise complicated for her to ought to conceal smoking all those years...for someone to conceal all of it those years, she ought to extremely care about what you imagine, it only sucks for her to sense like she's an adolescent hiding that she smokes from her dad...that you at the on the spot are not.... you're her husband so what you may do is say in case you smoke do not do it round me or the little ones.... and ask her to attempt to cut backtrack on the smoking... u also requested "how will you be married to someone you could't believe"... properly if that is the only component she lied about then you genuinely do not have the different reason now to not believe her.... besides she may sense the same way if she sounds like she cant even inform you that she smokes.
2016-10-16 05:27:43 · answer #4 · answered by vergeer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you know, to stop smoking is hard, but you are concern about her health. But the thing that really bothers you is, that you do not like her tell you a lie. and that if you lie about that then you can lie about a lot of things. Tell her that honesty means a lot in a relationship, and that you want the two of you to work on her stop smoking, and to be truth full to each other.
2007-01-28 04:34:12 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the sme situation as you...my husband has gone back to smoking & has lied about it, his DR. told him to lay off them, he won't do it. I've caught him in so many lies about smoking it really angers me. I think the lying hurts worse than the smoking, I no longer trust him I don't believe a word he says any more, i've told him this, he just shrugs it off. So now every time we go out some where & I find his cigarettes, I tear them to shreds. You asked..."could this lead to bigger lies"? Yes. What should you do? Go see a marriage councelor or your pastor of your church. This is where we are going now.
2007-01-28 04:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by YAWN 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think it necessarily will lead to more lies. She is probably just so scared to let you down that she caved in and lied about it. Sit her down and have a discussion about how much you care about her and why you dont want her smoking. Make sure to let her know that you are here for support and to help. Tell her to call you every time she has the urge or something like that. Show her how much you care and want to help so she doesnt feel like she needs to hide it.
2007-01-28 04:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by rachie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you know she's smoking and offer to help her quit if she wants to. Buy products for her that will aide her through it. In all reality, the choice to smoke is hers. She's aware of the dangers and you cannot force her to stop. She's lying to keep the peace with you. Remember that if you're tempted to ever tell her a lie.
2007-01-28 04:53:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoking is a hard habit to break. Try ro support and and understand how difficult it is to stop smoking. If she has not lied about anything else, then don't worry. But, if she has given you a reason not tot trust her, I can understand your concern. Talk to her and let her know how you feel about the issues. good luck
2007-01-28 04:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
don't blow things out of proportion. just because she lied about the smoking doesn't mean she will lie about everything. tell her that you aren't that upset about the smoking thing, just wondering why she felt she had to lie about it. maybe this is a good chance for you and her to talk about trust issues.
2007-01-28 04:34:30 · answer #10 · answered by Btieti 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋