My husband & i have been married a year and it sems like we never have any sex he works all the time from 7am to 9pm everyday. i work from 9am to 3pm no weekens and we never seem to have any time for us so how long can a young couple last with no sex at all?
2007-01-28 04:05:14 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess the catch-22 is the lack of availability of enough time for fun between you two. It is very important that you guys discuss this and begin to find ways to make time for each other.
It sure isn't how many times a week you have but how great and intense and memorable it is when you do make love to each other.
If you have the desire to initiate, have you tried waking up about a half hour prior and begin to play with him while you're still in bed? Arouse him. Tease him. In a gentle, intimate way. It's about creating that desire in him to long for it. He should look forward to it every time ~ that drives desire to become habitual.
When he returns home from work and if he has the habit of relaxing in the shower or sitting on the couch, use that opportunity to play with him. Over time, you may not see a lot of change in him but when you do stop even for a day, that's when you'll see how much he longs for it.
Many of the suggestions you might hear are the ones that'll require you to take time which you currently have a challenge with. So, small baby steps at a time. Constantly be the one to initiate and arouse him. And pretty soon he'll start making more time for it :-)
Hey, today is a sunday ~ couldn't be a better day to start the arousal process!!!!
2007-01-28 04:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Insist on a vacation for the two of you- ALONE spice things up with some new undies and bras - you need the perfect ones, though. Remember act sexy all the time be a little mysterious and he'll be even more turned on. Tell him you want to have sex. Stop by his work and play around a bit.
2007-01-28 14:28:57 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about a sensual strip tease for him, or maybe play some naked twister, hehe. I think it all depends on how much you consider sex a part of the equasion. I'm guessing it won't last long at all if there's no sex, especially since your young and rarin to go.
2007-01-28 12:59:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I have a similar work situation...lots of overtime. I'm sure your husband is exhausted when he gets home. So try waking up 30 minutes before he normally gets up and start flirting. He should have more energy then.
Give up on the idea of hours of foreplay or games. Have fun with creative ways and places to have quickies. It's the only way we find time to have and enjoy sex.
2007-01-28 14:03:00 · answer #4 · answered by Tamara N 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
you should look up a sex swing. ummm u can look at google and get a pic of it. i dont really wanna explain. and for sex if u wanna spice things up dress like a school girl. oh and do it to him while he is sleeping. i alays do it and whan i came pregnant my hus thought i was cheating on him. but that is just my hus.carzy but hot!
2007-01-29 17:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down in a nice quiet private place and have a few drinks
while watching some porn together...
Sex is a necessary component of marriage & stable relationships.
2007-01-28 12:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Go to a local adult bookstore and buy an adult board game and some sex toys.. This is fun and really spices things up!
2007-01-28 12:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try in the shower together and soap each other and rinse each other play with it and let him do foreplay
2007-02-01 09:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should drop by my place later. after 3 is fine.
2007-01-28 12:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
How about playing Twister naked.
2007-01-28 13:52:34 · answer #10 · answered by Chloe 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋