My husband had a mistress that he just couldn't stay away from for 2 years. She finally left him and we have been trying to work things out. I can't get past the affair yet, but the wounds are still fresh. He has been acting kind of sad, like he misses her. Will he be able to get over his loss and be able to work on our marriage? Or will he end up trying to get her back in his life?
2007-01-28 04:04:56 · 13 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ohh dear, sweetie....why are you still with this man??? If he misses her and wants her then he obviously may love her....if he was with her for 2 years and you then he obviously loves both of you. You shouldn't have to share your husband with ANYONE, and that is NOT selfish. I give you huge props for even attempting to work things out with him. I honestly believe, in my opinion, that she is not out of his life forever....and when he does try to go get her back and she rejects him (because she left him in the first place) do you really want to stick around and deal with that man that cheated on you for 2 years??! This is not the time to think with your heart, think with your head....I know it hurts and you hate this situation but things will get better for you....do whats right for you NOT whats right for you and him because HE DIDN'T when he had a mistress for 2 years! You are awesome, you are a woman, and you deserve better!!
2007-01-28 04:17:17 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is Still at home ! So. ask yourself why ! your husband has a choice to be any place he wants, mistress or not. after all the mistress left him alone (note: She left him) and if you both are willing start from today yesterday is wisdom for another day
2007-01-28 04:34:22 · answer #2 · answered by Tennessee Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT..You are worried about your husband having a hard time getting over his mistress..You need to have more respect for yourself and divorce this man immediately.Obviously he does not love nor respect you if he has cheated on you.And to answer your question yes they usually do go back to their mistress...
2007-01-28 04:59:33 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Since the mistress ended their affair, it will be harder for him to get over her. He fell in love with her but was attached to you and that's probably one main reason she left him. The better question for you to answer is, why are YOU still in your marriage???? Can you ever really trust him again?
2007-01-28 04:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by Perplexed 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT???? For two years he had a mistress, and now he is moping around without her??? Tell us all, why are you determined to stay in a relationship where you are clearly second place and will probably remain there?
2007-01-28 04:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope he does and that he will never do this to you and your marriage again... It is up to you if you want to work on your marriage or not... Is he truley sorry for what he did or is he still wanting other women? If he does not change then you need to leave but if he is sorry and wants to work on the marriage then try working it out if at all possible.
2007-01-28 04:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he will not. She will always be a part of his life. Always! But he would eventually not miss her if he concentrate on trying to work things out with you. Never pressure him to forget her. It is impossible. Live with it and don't bring her up again in his presence.You do your part.You would know if he is really trying to work things out with you.If not, you know what to do.
2007-01-28 04:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by Montana Skye 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have asked this kind of question so many times. If this is a real situation, you should know what to do by now.
2007-01-29 04:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Cori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to save your marriage, you and he need to consider counseling --- and if you didn't know it, it is two years to heal a marraige after betrayal, even if you both wish to save it... Good luck hon
2007-01-28 04:14:55 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him whether he with you because he was dumped and has nowhere else to go or because he wants to be with you? That will give both of you the kick in the pants that you need.
2007-01-28 04:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋