2007-01-28 04:03:56 · 42 answers · asked by lovebug0828 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Think about the future and the long run.
There are too many people in this world right now that are permanent reminders of a temporary feeling. ~
2007-01-28 04:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Best thing is to ask him why he is not ready. Maybe he has some plans he wants to do first. Or maybe he wants a house/ marriage / better job. its never a good idea to trap a man (im not saying you would) or guilt him as you will need all the surport you can get.
I had a miscarriage a month ago. It was an unplanned pregnancy although i did want it. since then i have been wanting to try again. But my man is not ready. He wants us to get a nice place and pay off my uni debts and take a couple of holidays and be seattled in our jobs. At the moment we are not seattled in our jobs and we can only live in my flat for a couple more months. So after thinking about it i have decided he is right and we have given ourselves 2 years to sort this out and then we will try. We comprimised plus i would feel a lot happier having none of the worrys.
If he wont talk or comprimise with you , then maybe you need to think if he is the man for you. talk to him he may surprise you.
2007-01-29 00:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by Littleblonde-kacey is here 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? The only morally OK option if you really want a baby is to break up with your boyfriend and find someone who wants one. Don't trap the guy, that is the most despicable thing that you could do. Remember that a child is not an accessory, and it will not make your life better or make him stay. It is a human being that you will be responsible for the rest of your life. Just wait or find someone else
2007-01-28 04:08:37 · answer #3 · answered by s 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if you deceive your BF and get pregnant behind his back, then you'll have to raise a child by yourself and have many things to regret in the long run. How long have you been together? Are you planning on marrying this man? If so does he ever want children? If he has made the decision to not have children ever, then you definately need to break things off and find someone who has the same feelings as you do. Because if you do not change things now.. you will make one another miserable and ending up hating each other. Do not get pregnant and mess up both of your lives. Good luck with making your decisions.
2007-01-28 04:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find out if he will want a baby sometime in the future. Maybe he thinks you're both too young or wants to be married first. If he doesn't ever want a child then you need to decide how important having a child is to you. If you will feel an emptiness your whole life without a child, then you have to look for a man who feels the same way. If you decide a child is that important to you and decide to stay with him anyway, it could eventually ruin your relationship with him. It could be a regular source of conflict, plus you could start to resent him for your lack of fulfillment.
2007-01-28 04:19:56 · answer #5 · answered by secondopinion 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to trick him into it. If you get pregnant, he will leave you. The best thing is to wait until you get married. You sound like you might be a bit young for a baby. Soooo, why don't you try to get a babysitting job. That way you can take care and play with a baby and not give up your youth. It's not easy to have a baby. Especially when you are the only one taking care of it. Don't try to convince him that he wants one. Right now, he doesn't. If you care for him, you will respect that and just enjoy your relationship together. If you do have a baby, you can say bye-bye to sex for a while, staying out late, hanging out with friends, spending money, partying, vacations... But when you ARE ready...they are sooooo worth it!!! But please wait!
2007-01-28 04:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by cutesy76 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Then you either find a new man or you do not have a baby. Personally I think babies should only come to two people who are wiling to commit for LIFE and that is normally a married couple, although not always.
It is unbelievably unfair to trick a man into having a baby, and I would be very disappointed in any woman who did so, so please don't go ahead and have one without his blessings and full participation.
2007-01-28 04:09:55 · answer #7 · answered by Erika B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want to marry you, why would the baby question even come up? A baby needs some stability in their lives. Work on the stable home first. Everything else will just fall into place.
2007-01-28 04:08:52 · answer #8 · answered by GoodGuy53 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't have a baby. Women seem to love poppin'em out for some reason and then find themselves shocked at the financial burden, the endless compromises in every aspect of life, not to mention the deterioration of the relationship between the man and woman. A kid is simply not worth it.
2007-01-28 04:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being a parent is wonderful and really hard. You have to protect them from ALL the dangers in the world and teach them to be able to leave you and make it on their own. You have to be extremely patient and think before you act. You have to give up allot of your freedom to do what you want. It is a decision that needs to be made for the best possible outcome.
I don't know how old you are, but if you are young give him time, if you are getting older find a man who does want kids.
As for the first suggestion - My mother tricked my father into having me and it did not turn out well for me.
2007-01-28 04:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by crct2004 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you wait untill your married or are in a stable relationship with some one who shares your point of veiw or if you think hes the one wait till hes ready make sure you find out why he doesnt want babies maybe its a small problem that can be fixed like if its finances help to find a job or if its because your not married tell him to pony up but if its because hes not ready dont push it nothing is worse than a daddy who isnt ready to be daddy also if he doesnt like kidsthats a big red flag too hell mostlikely resent any child if hes forced into it so if he doesnt want kids and you do move on maybe hes not the one for you or ride it out till its done then move on
2007-01-28 04:12:24 · answer #11 · answered by mommyofanangel06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋