if you are unhappily single?

Question

how do you beat it, I'm all right during the day 'cause I have obligations but at night...it gets really lonely I want to have someone by my side. i'm so romantic and I don't like that, it makes want to have something I don't.

thanx

ps) I put this question here 'cause I want to hear sth. original, not just date this person, date that person 'cause it doesnt work. you either like someone or you don't

Answer 1

I would suggest to first work on yourself without anyone. If you feel incomplete without someone else then you will still be incomplete with someone there. Another person doesn't complete you or fill that void only you can do that. Try romancing yourself without anyone else. Go out and enjoy nature - make love to your Creator from your soul. Set the table with Roses and enjoy just being you. You will find that other people become very attracted to a person who is fulfilled, happy and at peace with themselves. If you feel that you HAVE to have someone else, then it is a sure sign you are not ready for a relationship.

Answer 2

I'll definitly get thumbs down for saying anything against being single, since in todays society it's evil to think such a thing but hear me out:

The idea of being single and happy is a new way of life specifically aimed at women who wish to be independant and "strong", but doesn't logically work unless your a certain type of person. Single life is NOT for everyone no matter how much society preaches that it is.

In the end, if your single, you will feel lonely and will have to do something about it. 1) you'll have to force yourself to find some kind of people interaction to have human contact thats your missing. 2) If your not the kind to make friends easily, those who don't make friends easily are usually the kinds of women who become workaholics for fear of going home to a cold and empty bed. Subconsiously this is the case, but many would never admit it. They'll just say, "I work hard because I'm successful". But theirs a reason why people do what they do.

In the end, their not really independant because the things they would rely on a boyfriend with, they rely on the Country, Police, Courts, and other sources when needing help with something. Once that security is gone, (like if the country became unstable somehow) insecurity floods the life.

You can only be single and happy if you find more love in your work than you would even have in a human being (like someone like Oprah). Or if you are Mrs Friendly and with a big family, so your constantly surrounded by human beings that like to talk to you. This way, why have a boyfriend if you always have human company?

For all other normal people, this isn't a reality. This is why we learn to be more about how to be smarter about dating. Thats why we look hard to find the one person that we can truly love and get loved back the same way.

Alright, now rain on the thumbs downs, you know I love it :)

Answer 3

Yes...I know that feeling... and sometimes it kills you, your spirit. I spend so many nights.,and days feeling lonely...hoping that someone spacial will come by.
Probably I won't help you, but I found I solution for myself...or more specific ....I found a really nice and caring friend. He knows to show love, to talk with me...and I feel much better....I'm thankful to God that I met this wonderful person. He knows me very well and I know him...and it is much easier to share the pain of not finding the right one...with one true friend.

I hope that you will find someone special. In the meantime try not to think that you are unhappily single...just a guy who seeks something true and real.

Answer 4

I would say I get lonely for affection, but I am not unhappy.

This is how it works for me... all the time.....
I meet an intelligent funny guy who flirts and everything with me and this mutual crush will go on for some weeks or months and then I find out someway or another that they have a wife or girlfriend. But during the time before I find out about the other woman, I fantasize about going out with him, the first kiss, the first time we have sex, the first time we have a serious talk. I get all built up and horny for him and then..........'OH, I didn't know you had a girlfriend, good for you!'
I walk away feeling like shyte!

I am confident that one day I will find a great guy.

Answer 5

Having a beloved friend to live with eliminates the desire for romance. There is a definite hierarchy of being implied in your question. Friendship is not always permanent, but it is more stable than a love affair. And there is not a shred of doubt in my mind that expeditious cohabitation is to be avoided.

Seek out friends who will appreciate your company. God bless.

Answer 6

I'm not sure what your question is...but all I know is you have to figure out to be happy with your self before you can be 100% happy with anyone else. That's like a law and it applies to everyone! I'm in your shoes. I consider myself "Romantic" and really miss having a girl by my side (we split "for now" since I left for college) but I do realize that I have to be happy by myself for now.

Answer 7

you can go to social places to meet some one or just to hang out. and when the right one comes along you will know it. but get involve with some social things, like church or single bars something in the community

Answer 8

Just remember that somewhere out there, your true love is waiting for you and one day you'll find each other. That's what gets me through the night as well as the day.

Answer 9

eventually someone will some around the corner and then at that moment you will know that is the person you are destined to be with and they will love you and you will love them and you wont be lonely anymore. ( D

Answer 10

Yeah I know. It gets lonely sometimes.