my boyfriend and i have sex often but i never ave an orgasim, how can we change that?

Question

im 16 so does that have any effect

Answer 1

An orgasm is the release of built-up muscle tension resulting from sexual activity. It produces rapid muscle contractions usually in the genital and anal area, but these contractions can also be throughout the body. Most people find these muscular contractions very pleasant. In both men and women, an orgasm is sometimes accompanied with the release of ejaculatory fluid. Ejaculation is much more usual in men than it is in women. Only about 10 percent of women report ejaculating during orgasm.

Orgasms can be reached through many different types of sexual activity, although women often tend to reach orgasm through clitoral, rather than vaginal, stimulation. Men tend to reach orgasm more quickly than women, just as men tend to become sexually aroused more quickly than women. On the other hand, women are more likely to have more than one or multiple orgasms during sexual activity than men are.

Many people used to believe that a person could not get an infection or become pregnant if there was no orgasm during sexual activity. But this is not true. Pregnancy and infection can occur from vaginal intercourse, whether or not either partner has an orgasm.

Hope this information helps!

Answer 2

The technical term is inexperience. You'll get over it.

There's a marvelous book, getting to be kind of old now, called "The Joy of Sex," by Alex Comfort. It was quite the best-seller when it was new, which I think was in the late 1960s or early 1970s. There are some lovely illustrations, not gross but rather romantic, involving a couple who are clearly enjoying themselves in drawings, not photos.

Don't think it's silly to read about sex. You'd be amazed at how much even very experienced people can learn. It's not just how to do things, but how to appreciate them, how to enjoy them. The title is sincerely meant.

Answer 3

I think sex just is an act done by two persons, so they both should enjoy it.
Often men only think to reach orgasm without taking care if woman is satisfied too. That sounds like selfishness!
How long last long your sexual intercourses usually?
Evidently you need more time to reach the apex and your b/f should understand that! Unluckily the most part of guys aren't able to carry out longer act or more one consecutively.
Personally I can affirm that my partners never have remained without an orgasm because it's a duty for me!

Answer 4

your age has nothing to do with your orgasm .... he may not be able to give U an orgasm by intercourse he may have to give U oral sex (cunnilingus) the scientific name or proper name 4 eat U out ..... he would have to do this and communicate with U as he's doing it to find out your your most sensative spots are and if U he's doin it where it pleases your when he feels u swell down there (your clitorus) depending on if u like the tongue licks slow or fast depends on how long it will take 4 u to have an orgasm. when u get that feeling like it feels like u about to pee let it go it shud'nt be piss but the highest form of an orgasm according to women i've known. hopefully y'all practice sex safely and be careful and that this info helps.

Answer 5

Dear,
Am married and wants to help you, first of all get rid of fear, there is something called foreplay, tell your boy the places you want him to be touched and caressed, may be he is not aware of these parts of your body,
Do not go for straight sex, Foreplay , sensual touch on the private parts, sometime watching the sex act on a TV, before the actual act will help you to get orgasm.
Good Luck
Web Hunter

Answer 6

Yeah, you can buy toys or a dildo... Some woman naturally can't have an orgasm during sex with a man, because either he doesn't go long enough or he's not that great in bed, or you are just too wide open. There are many reasons to why you don't, look it up or ask a your doctor.

Answer 7

Stop having sex with your bf... your not going to have an orgasim your going to have a baby!

Answer 8

Yes, your age has a lot to do with it!

Sorry ladies, O's don't come around until later in life, if at all, for many women.

Could be the guy too though! Maybe he's not doing enough to make you hot.

Answer 9

try different positions this can help also try doin some pelvic excercises this takes a while but it can help in the long run some people never have an orgasm

Answer 10

i'm the same way with my fiance, yet we only began having sex. I heard it receives better with time. also it facilitates to inform him what you want and what feels good to you. How does he recognize, he don't have a clitoris.