2007-01-28 03:07:58 · 20 answers · asked by soda_popz85 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would not. Strictly because I don't want children of my own, so I wouldn't want to take care of someone elses. A single father is a package deal and in the end we would be miserable. That is not fair to him, not fair to me, and CERTAINLY not fair to the child.
2007-01-28 04:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages involving ready-made families happen all the time. This decision is totally up to you. The biggest problem besides getting used to married life now includes obtaining a relationship as a step mother to a 6yr old child. It does add extra stress to a marriage but a 6yr old is better to get adjusted to than a newborn. You will probably have the usual problems of my mom said/does this and youre not my mom, etc. but its usually the age talking to try to manipulate everyone, nothing personal against you.its just the way kids are. An all ready made family marriage has no more of a success rate than does a regular marriage, but many do survive even though it may be a little more tougher with a child. Good luck
2007-01-28 03:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is he divorced? If its his child you will have to accept the child too and the question is do you want to? DIvorced men have issues and if they could not make it with their wives do you really think things will be different with you. You have o nly heard his side of the story, but I have to tell you there is his side; there is her side; and then there is the truth. Obviously you want to believe what he tells you but the question is is he telling you all or just what he wants you to know?
This is a choice you have to make alone. People can advise you to do anything! I would be very careful if it were me, in fact I would not even consider divorced men. Its just trouble.
If he is willing to go for counselling and therapy thats great, but only time will tell if he really did get over the issues.
THink very carefully friend, dont be too quick to think you can change him. You wont! Its not your job! Its Gods problem. You are not there to change people. You have to accept the man warts and all!
I hope you choose the right direction to take. WHen in doubt dont do!
2007-01-28 03:48:22 · answer #3 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally... no because I have a husband and two children. But hypothetically if I didn't, and I was dating a man who had a 6 y/o child and I really felt a connection there wouldn't be anything to stop me from marrying the guy. Children aren't a burden or a problem even if they aren't mine. And anyone who feels that way, you probably shouldn't be asking to marry you. Who wants to choose between their kid and a girlfriend or boyfriend. I know I wouldn't.
2007-01-28 03:12:56 · answer #4 · answered by babybunny729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would I personally? Personally I would never let myself get involved with a man that has been divorced or has a child. I wouldn't be able to handle that if it were my situation. I guess its different for each person. If you don't mind and you love him go for it!
2007-01-28 03:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I wouldn't, but that's mostly because my daughter is an adult, and I'm over the whole child-rearing thing.
Jumping back several years, I would have but only with some serious consideration, agreement as to the roles and rules, and some pre-marital family counseling.
2007-01-28 03:57:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with that? If you have to ask it makes me wonder what you are thinking. Do you have a problem with him having a child? You are the one that has to deal with it and some women do not want that. So we can say anything we feel but what is really important is how do you feel about it.
2007-01-28 03:18:49 · answer #7 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of on the 2d you sense this way due on your hormones. you do no longer could confirm this very 2d, think of approximately it a sprint. Your hormone point could even out in some months and you'd be able to sense in yet in any different case. 3 teenagers is a lot distinctive than 2, it is going to alter the entire dynamics of your loved ones. in the past i became able to potty practice toddler #2 i became ill of the entire diaper element, in no way with the ability to go away the domicile without checking the diaper bag for all of the flaws you would be able to desire to prefer purely to flow to the shop or despite. every time you go away the domicile its like a substantial troop circulation. And my husband became no longer a affected person guy, while he had to flow, he had to easily flow, he hated the motor vehicle seats and toys and bags. So its incredibly a call you and your husband could make mutually. even inspite of the shown fact that i might have enjoyed yet another, i became later blessed with a grandson, who lives with us, and that i got here across there is better than one thank you to get what you like.
2016-11-01 12:17:51 · answer #8 · answered by lobos 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I wasn't already married. Yes I would, if this man truly loved me and his child was a sweet person that didn't hate me.
2007-01-28 06:32:55 · answer #9 · answered by Chloe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would if i felt he was the right man for my life and the child would be more joy and fun to the marriage and relationship.
2007-01-28 03:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋