Did my mom overpunish my sister?

Question

My sister was grounded for the past two weeks for cussing at mom. She's 11.
All week long she was kissing up to mom to get out of her last day of grounding but mom wouldn't give in.

So my sister snuck out of her window and went to a basketball game, my little brother ratted her out to mom just to get her in trouble. Which she did.

I'm still in shock that mom actually put her across her knee
and spanked her, my mom never spanked any of us, she
popped us on the butt but nothing like what my sister got.
Besides the spanking mom grounded Heather for 1 month!

I know what my sister did was wrong, but if mom would of
let her go to the game she would of never sneaked out.
All this could of been avoided.

Don't you think thats too much punishment for my sister?
Should I speak to mom and try to get the grounding down to
2 weeks?

I'm mad at my brother to for ratting her out.

When mom grounds us she takes away the internet, tv, phone and ipods.

Answer 1

It all would have been avoided if your sister who is 11 did not have a foul mouth towards mom. Your sister sneaking out was wrong. Parents don't punish kids to be mean. They do this to try to raise kids who will be respectfull adults.

Answer 2

Are you kidding me?
What's the point of punishing a kid if you're going to let them off the hook when they want to go to a basketball game or whatever? What would she learn?
She could have just waited another day. It wouldn't have killed her.
But no, she snuck out. She's eleven. I've heard about teenagers sneaking out but eleven is way too young. My cousin is almost 11 and it freaks me out thinking someone HER age would do something like that.
If your mom would have let her go to the basketball game, it could have been avoided (yes), but what would she have learned? What good would punishing her in the first place be?
Your little sister got off lucky for cussing her mother at that age. I would have got my butt busted AND then grounded.
And sneaking out would have got me the same thing, only longer.
So no your mom didn't "overpunish" your sister. Your mom actually "underpunished" her as many people in this world would be picking their teeth up off the ground for even talking back to their parents.

Answer 3

My personal opinion is that when your sister cussed at your mom your mom should have slapped her across the face. Your mom let her off easy by just grounding her. Your sister is only 11 by sneaking out your parents didn't know where she was and if something would have happened to her they wouldn't have known. You can not disrespect your parents (unless they aren't a part of your life and don't support you in anyway). Don't do the crime and you won't have to do the time.

Answer 4

As a mom, NO your mom did no longer over punish her. And definite all of it could have been prevented by skill of your sister having know on your mom and not cussing at her. and you ought to save your nostril out of it, that's between your sister and your mom. And your little brother did the splendid subject by skill of ratting out your sister. It grew to become into her final day of being grounded she ought to have only finished it out. Your sister desires to assessment that your mom is the BOSS!

Answer 5

Your bother did the right thing. Your mother is trying to teach your sister the nature of consequences. The world will not be so kind. What would have happened should your sister have gotten nabbed while she was secretly out? I doubt the child preditor would have been so forgiving as your mother...there are truly diseased mentally ill people out there! Your sister must live with the consequences of her poor behaviour...if you impede that, you could help your sister become a sad excuse for an adult.

Your sister couldn't even deal with the 2 weeks before! How is getting your mom to agree to lessen the term of punishment going to help your sister?

11 years old and sneaking out?! All she got was a butt smack? I would have belt whooped her behind, a lash for each hour she was gone. That too is much more forgiving than how a pedophile would have treated her...because those sickos out and out slaughter stupid little girls.

Answer 6

First of all, if I had an 11 year old that snuck out while she supposed to have been grounded, I would have done the same and then taken away all of her privlidges for a year! An 11 year old girl should not be running the streets on her own let alone at night!

I think that she got what she was asking for and you should thank your mom for being fair.

Answer 7

well punishment is a parents choice me personally i would have done the same thing you have to understand that your mom makes the rules and if she lets every one break them whats the point in haveing them she wanted your sister to learn from what ever it is that she did wrong the first time and not letting up was the right thing for your mom to do i mean think about it you do some thing wrong and if you kiss up you get out of trouble when you grow up and do some thing wrong when your over 18 and get in trouble youll expect to be able to get out of it by sucking up and i feel that sneeking out it a terrible offence because your mom didnt know where she was she could have been hurt or killed and it would have taken your mom a long time to find out its your moms job to keep you and your siblingssafe she cant do that if she hasnt set rule and if she doesnt know where you are im sorry your sister got punished but maybe next time shell learn

Answer 8

I view your mother in the right. I would never spank my children personally but if that is her way of disciplining then it was right. Your sister could have missed the basketball game and it wouldn't be that big of a deal, it is just a game.
I understand why your mother did that. Imagine if your sister didn't come home or your mom woke up and she wasn't in her bed, your mother would have no idea where she was or what could be happening to her.

Answer 9

As a mom myself, I probably would've done the same thing. I have a 10 year old boy. If he would've cussed me, I would wash his mouth out and ground him. If he was to sneak out of the house for any reason, I would bust his butt. This is a dangerous world we live in. You don't know what kind of people are out there. Someone could kidnap you or worse. Your sister probably scared your mom more than anything. And trust me, sucking up to get lesser time is not going to work. I've been there and done that.

Answer 10

Don't do the crime if you can't do the time.

I find the spanking questionable, but I understand your mother's frustration.

Your mother is trying to teach each of you to be responsible individuals. That does not include cussing. That does not include breaking the house rules or any other rules. That does include self-discipline.

I have no problems whatsoever with your mother grounding your sister for what she feels to be an appropriate amount of time for her language. And I have no problem with your mother grounding her again, for twice the amount of time for sneaking out for whatever reason when she was grounded.

BTW, your brother is absolutely right. And it wasn't your brother who got your sister into trouble. Your sister had no problems doing that for herself.

Answer 11

Nope!!! Your mom did good! Nothing is wrong with a good old fashtion spanking if needed. Your little sister knew she did wrong and she had to pay for it! Now I hope she learned her lesson and won't do it again. If I was your mom ( Yes I am old enough to have a 20 year old ) I would have done the same thing!