I cheated on my boyfriend on November 12th and my period didn't come when it was suppose to which was Novemeber 29th...So i took a test and found out that i was pregnant...My last period was on the 29th of October so that would make me 12 weeks if i got pregnant on the 12th of November...so i went to get an ultra sound because i was suppose to get an abortion yesterday and they told me they couldn't do it that day because my ultra sound was showing that i am 14 weeks pregnant..i'm soooo confused because that means it can't be for the guy i cheated with..it has to be for my boyfriend and if thats the case i'm not going to get an abortion...i only have until tuesday to make up my mind...but i need to know if ultra sounds are accurate? I'm 21 years old and i'm in college and i'm scared..i don't know if i'm doing the right thing..please help!!
2007-01-28 02:56:10 · 15 answers · asked by fashionista 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My cousin had 4 ultrasounds and not one got the date right. They date you by measuring your baby. It probably would not be 2 weeks out. Dont rush a desision, Especially as your probably gonna have to go through abortion alone. Talk to someone first. Good Luck
2007-01-29 00:54:38 · answer #1 · answered by Littleblonde-kacey is here 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultrasounds are the most accurate way to tell how far along you are based on the size of the fetus but keep in mind each child grows at a different rate. They are very close but you can't determine it down to an exact day unless you only had sex once in the 2-3 week period of time and it sounds like thats not the case. One this to keep in mind is regardless of who's sperm made that baby, if your boyfriend is ready to be a dad and you are ready to be a mom he will love the baby as his own. Don't judge whether or not you want to terminate the pregnancy on an ultrasound or the idea that there is a chance it might not be your boyfriend's baby. You are 21 so you're not a little kid, you are in college so you probably have a level head on your shoulders, if you keep your baby you will be just fine. I'm not saying it won't be hard but you will do fine. It may sound selfish but do what is right for you and your unborn baby.
2007-01-28 03:08:06 · answer #2 · answered by Angee D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my case, my ultrasound (2nd preg) was very accurate. It even got the weight of the baby right (minus...plus a few oz).
I see that if it is your bf you are going to keep it. If it is anothers you are going to abort it.
If you are willing to carry baby through to term (if bf), why would you not give it a chance even if it is another mans?
Could you not give it up for adoption? It has been said that these ultrasounds and due dates are purely guesstimates and they are. My due date was changed three times with my first pregnancy. They said she was measuring too big for the due date (changed date) and then they said that she was measuring too little for the due date (changed date) and finally they said that she was measuring too big and yet another change. Turns out that she was way overdue. I guess what I am trying to say is are you sure you want to abort this baby and then maybe it was your bf's child.
Please, carry it to term and deliver. Take a DNA test and then make a responsible decision to keep it or put it up for adoption.
At 14 weeks this baby has a heart beat and you can hear it. It is alive and growing inside of you. Abortion may seem the easy way out, but it is a decision that you must live with for the rest of your life. Do you really want to go through life wondering if you made the right decision in aborting the baby?
This is a hard choice. Please, consider all your options before making a decision. Good luck!
2007-01-28 03:09:27 · answer #3 · answered by SAMMY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've heard that, early in pregnancy, ultrasounds can be up to 2 weeks off. (although this was not a COMPLETELY reliable source). And, keep in mind that when they say 14 weeks, the first 2 weeks were before your baby was conceived. They consider the first day of your last period day #1 of your pregnancy. I would advise against abortion... this baby didn't do anything wrong. Have the baby, then have a DNA test. Or just give it up for adoption. .... but let the baby live.
2007-01-28 03:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by Emily H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your will hate yourself for the rest of you life if you kill your child to hide your mistake. Sometimes the guy can't tell the difference anyway. If I were you I would keep thee baby no matter who's the father but, that's just me. I don't mean anything by this other than think about it. What th e abortion clients do n't tell you is sometimes when you get an abortion you can never have kids again or worst get an infection and die! Is all this worth your little itty bitty mistake? Besides who knows he may forgive you. By the way to answer you question the doctors are usually right.
2007-01-28 03:11:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a very good chance the baby you are carrying is not your boyfriends, because doctors start counting the 1st day of your cycle which means add the 2 weeks to the original 12 you counted and you get 14.. If you didn't have sex with your boyfriend during the same time then there is no way it is his.
Good luck
2007-01-28 03:06:34 · answer #6 · answered by wheezerthill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 14 weeks along which means that you physically got pregnant about 12 weeks ago. They judge your due date and all that to the first day of your last period. Think about this for a moment here.. .there is a 2 week window of when the baby is born, which makes up for the 2 week window for the date of conception. We are all given a due date, but not all of us have them on that date now do we? Like with my 3rd child, my last period started on June 13th, my due date was March 20th... well he came EXACTLY 2 weeks late, being born on April 3rd. So you see.. this is all just a rough estimate. And they determine it from your last period.
If you choose to not keep this child... consider adoption!
2007-01-28 03:09:07 · answer #7 · answered by ,,!,,baddest~lil~b!tch,,!,, 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, regardless of who's baby it is, it isn't the baby's fault that you cheated and you're not sure which man is the father. I understand that you are young and scared, but if you don't want the baby give it up for adoption. I was 21 and in college when I had my daughter and I knew it was going to be a huge life changing experience, but she is absolutely beautiful and I can't imagine life without her. Good luck on your decision, and next time, be a little safer if you're not ready for a baby.
2007-01-28 03:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy of 2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not much help but I know the earlier on the ultrasound the more accurate the date will be. I doubt they would be out by 2 weeks at that point.
I think it's time to see a professional about this, it's a big choice to make.
2007-01-28 03:03:24 · answer #9 · answered by v.k_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends come and go, so do some husbands. A child will be yours forever. ......If it is the cheating result, you and your boyfriend could breakup anyways, especially if he finds out that you cheated..So you might as well keep the baby no matter what. And yes...ultra-sounds are very accurate.
2007-01-28 03:04:20 · answer #10 · answered by Westi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋