its been 6 months i know pretty pathetic since me and my boo broke up we have a 1 year old boy together and i am still deeply in love with her but our relationship was real messed up and me myself i believe in working things out but instead she packed a bag while i was sleeping and bounced outta my intamite life style into one with her ex from before me. she moved out and right in with the ex.i have visits with my son and shes there but what im asking is did she have it planned? am i a good man or should i give up on love totally so i dont risk loosing or hurting any other special ppl to me ????? its a tuff situation but should i say goodbye forever or keep being her friend and maybe she will love me and we can be together again? pls take your time on this question and give feedback that actually might help thank you everyone.......
2007-01-28 02:53:43 · 9 answers · asked by lovetwosweat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok that is messed up.... all i can say is that if she loved you she would not have "bounced" outta ur life and into someone elses. I wonder myself if she was not seeing her ex behind your back for awhile and finally made the decision to leave you. I was not there and do not know the facts however i am going to assume you were good to her. If this was the case then it is her loss and I think you should take care of your boy but move on...find another love...take your time to get over her...be her friend but thats it. even if she came back home to you right now, next little "spat" you guys have she'd prolly just take off again... she sounds immature and she prolly does not know what true love is. It is hard to find True love.... but it is out there.....trust me...It took me 25 years to find it:-) Good luck!!!
2007-01-28 03:09:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similiar. My wife and I had been together for about 8 years, we have a beautiful 5 year old son. Our relationship was not the best for the last 2-3 years. Well, what happened my wife ended up cheating on me w/ another guy, and one day she sadi I do not love you anymore, so I am moving out and getting my own apartment. She did and took my son w/ her. I would see my son everyday, because she only moved about 10 min from me. We have now been seperated for about 2 years, and I still have strong feelings for her, and get jealous when I see her w/ new boyfriends, but I never show it in front of her, and now I just try to spend the most time I can with my son, and try to not even think about what my ex-wife. Well her relationship went bad w/ the guy she left me for and now she will on occassions, say, "Well maybe I messed up, maybe we should try to work this out", and eventhough I still love her and would like to get back with her...the reality is, eventually she would cheat on me again, and I would suffer again, so I just say no...for now..who knows later down the road.
2007-01-28 11:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'd take her back???? After she moved out to go back to another guy? Without even mentioning her plan? And yes, it WAS planned, or else there were just reruns on TV, so she got bored, and packed her stuff out of boredom, and just happened to end up with the ex. Darn, get some pride and backbone buddy. Get down on your knees and thank God she's gone. I'd take that woman back, right after hell froze over, and Jesus and Satan skated past arm in arm- and maybe not even then. That doesn't mean give up on love- it means that this female isn't worth bothering with. You'd be likely to meet a better woman by picking random numbers and calling strangers for a date.
2007-01-28 12:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you care about your ex a lot(understatement) but look at the facts. She did you wrong man, and even if she left the current guy that she is with for you would your really want her back (yes you would). But it would not be fair to yourself to live with a woman who did not take into account how her decisions affected your life and your childs. This sounds bad, but you have to move on bro. Bottem line you gotta work on what you really want out of life and your ex sounds way to destructive to ever be a part of that again. Next time you do find a girl to settle with though make sure you get your best friends approval of her becuase when your in love you cant really see how people change you, if they bring out the best in you. It sounds like you need that man; i wish you the best of luck.
2007-01-28 11:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a really nice person. And I think you deserve better than her. She is sneaky and doesn't seem to have any compassion for any ones feelings. She did not think of anyone but her self . I would never take her back if I were you. I would move on and find a real nice girl that deserves to have you. And when she trys to get in your buisness after she sees that you are not sitting there pineing away for her , tell her that you have moved on and that your are not interested any more.She will only hurt you again. She made her choice and 6 months later she is still there that speaks for itself.
2007-01-28 11:15:36 · answer #5 · answered by *queenfairy1*Antioch California 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because it didn't work out with her doesn't mean you should give up on love completely. There are lots of single women in the world and you need more time to accept that it's over.
2007-01-28 11:46:52 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let one bad relationship keep you down. give yourself a little time and come in swinging. dont settle for seconds in which i meen waiting on her to get tired of her boyfriend and taking you back. You seem like a good guy and sometimes people can take advantage of that.
2007-01-28 11:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by sirjames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like it was planned to me since she moved straight in with her ex...Even though you love her and want her I'm gonna say its time to give up on her and you move on as well as she did....Don't give yup on love theres plenty of girls out there just take your time and find the right one.
good luck
2007-01-28 11:02:38 · answer #8 · answered by amber j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she left u did she? so y are u asking this q?????. love is not blind people r.................
2007-01-28 11:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by amncalcupid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋