I am 24 year male and going to be maried by next month.I am also of very shying nature.I am not getting how to start sex with my wife on first night of mariage.I have never done sex before.Can any budy explain me complete process.............Pls serious answer.
2007-01-28 02:49:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should get advice from another married man in your family or community--your father, uncle, grandfather, cousin could be a wealth of information. Plus, it would make them feel totally manly to be sharing their bedroom secrets with you!!
But if you can't find someone experienced to talk to, I would just take it slow on your wedding night. I'm assuming your bride is as inexperienced as you are and is scared too. Take it slow, sit down with her on the bed, hold her, look at her, talk to her. Ask her if she's happy, tell her she's beautiful, tell her how happy you are. Run your fingers through her hair for a while, run your hands down her arms and her back, touch her face. Just touch each other for a while, and eventually you will both relax, your bodies will start responding, and you'll be surprised how easy it is to do what comes next!
2007-01-28 03:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer L 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on waiting and I assume your wife is also inexperienced so here goes. The first time needs to be romantic and SLOW. If you are in a hotel or motel room it may be a little awkward to play music but try and be sure lighting is low. She will probably change in the bathroom (by herself), When she comes out you go in and change into something comfortable. After that a lot of hugging, kissing, talking about the wedding, your life together etc.Don't hurry to the main event. Under the covers your bodies will respond naturally. Slowly work you way down to the clit - massage it GENTLY for a while and you will know when the time is right to move on. Have a towel handy and she may bleed the first time so a pad for her would be OK and it may hurt her some. Be gentle and understanding. Likes she is having a period. Be sure to use protection so she doesn't get pregnant the first time. As you have been married a few months buy some books together to enhance your love making. Enjoy.
2007-01-28 03:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpicker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is goin to sound lame but you definetly want to set the mood 1st, that is paramount if you hav decided to wait this long. Make sure you two are in a very welcoming envirement. It would be weak to wait until age 24 to have sex for the 1st time in some hotel. Some people like to use music to set the mood, and lighting is important as well. Whatever road you decide to go down however, make sure you make it about her. You have decided to spend the rest of your life with this girl so you better show it by responding to her needs, even though you may not know what they are yet. Even though you have not had sex yet, if you start giving her massages now, you will get used to the way her body feels(if you have not already) and this will take a little of the edge off. When you are massaging her, find out what she likes and remember that for the big night; it will set the stage. Well i hope that helps.
2007-01-28 03:17:46 · answer #3 · answered by "the Otter" 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just done advising a misguided teenager but man, yours is outrageously different. I think I can not manage to go seriously he-he-he, . . . but I'll try my best though. Look, before you start doing all the nice advices those fellows has given you make sure you and your bride are both naked and make sure your P is erected. Also, hope that your bride is not in her monthly period during your honeymoon. Don't worry everything will go and flow spontaneously during your night because a naked woman's body talks. You just need to respond. HIT THE BELL COWBOY.
2007-01-28 04:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by Bully Charmer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you shower first. Once you snuggle up to her body, YOUR body should be able to be your guide. If you've never done it before, you probably better masturbate earlier in the day so you don't get "too excited" and ruin it for you both.
2007-01-28 02:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by dreamgirl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what you should do is, buy roses peddels or roses if you cant find any and take them line them up going from the front door to the bed room and have candels lit with romantic music playing in the backround and that should get her started...
2007-01-28 02:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy just find out what she wants you to do to get her into the mood and do it. Try kissing her on the neck and on her breasts that should work
2007-01-28 02:52:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
serious answer as i was in the same position many years ago --- hold her close and start kissing --- it becomes very easy after that
2007-01-28 02:53:10 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy The Joy of Sex, it really can help and you can order it on-line if you're embarassed.
2007-01-28 02:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wrap your arms around her and look into her eyes and tell her how much you love her. then kiss her and suggest you both get more Comfortable.
2007-01-28 02:53:39 · answer #10 · answered by musicman2513 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋