I'm 18 and having my first baby?

Question

my husband and I have been married for 1 year but we have been together 5 yrs. well we are having our first baby due on july 15... I need some advice on what do.... Like what if the baby has colic or something what am i suppose to do about that... any moms out there that will help me out... I would ask my mother but she pasted away when I was 12...

Answer 1

Okay, I don't know why everyone is saying "It will come naturally!" For me it didn't...and I got really frustrated with that. It really is too soon to tell what type of baby you're going to have, but I can give you a few tips.

1)Read, read, read!!! Read something about calming babies now, b/c when the baby gets here, you won't have time. I recommend "The Baby Whisperer" by Tracy Hogg and "The Happiest Baby on the Block" by Harvey Karp. Both are excellent and really helped me.

2)The first three months are terrible! Just keep your head down and push through. Even if your baby has colic, there isn't much that can be done...other than gas drops, etc. Here's where the reading comes in handy-you'll be a bit more prepared for the crying and have some calming techniques. But things get a lot better around 4 months and much, much better at 6 months.

3)It's okay to walk away. What I mean is, every mother(no matter how great the baby is)hits the wall sooner or later. You'll feel yourself losing control and getting very frustrated and it's totally normal. If you have to put him/her in the crib and walk away for a few minutes to compose yourself, then do it. I tell all my girlfriends that there is a "dark side" to being a mother and you just have to accept that, sometimes, he's just going to cry no matter what you're doing...and that's okay.

I hope this helps! Good luck!

Answer 2

Being a mother is a natural thing. The first few weeks are really tough, but after about a month, things slow down and your baby will fall into a pattern. I'm a young mother (22) and just had my first baby three months ago. She is so much fun.

Only a small percentage of babies (something like 20%) have colic, so I wouldn't even worry. There isn't much you can do to soothe colicy babies... I've heard swaddling them helps, holding them close, and thankfully, colic goes away by about two to three months.

Answer 3

yeah. having a baby is much more than what to do if the baby has colic. there's too much you need to know and most of it you have to learn from experience...you know, trial and error... what i found helpful was to read stuff, like that "what to expect the first year" book...as i went along for my baby's first year of life. the book has an index so it's easy to look stuff up, like colic. a lot of it is common sense, really. and then, you'll have a pediatrician that can answer questions you have. it would be a good idea to write questions down for your visits so you don't forget. my mom is still alive, but she lives 1000 miles away and is less than helpful. i was pretty much on my own too. you'll figure it out. it's nerve-wracking, i'll give you that. the first couple of days i came home from the hospital, i just wanted to cry because i was so overwhelmed not knowing what to do. that's why i liked that book. it made me feel like i was going through something that was completely normal and that others experience. good luck, god bless. you'll be fine.

Answer 4

If your baby has colic it mean she is hurting somewhere. It could be gas, reflux, allergy. Dont let the doctor just say its colic and shes too young for medication. Theres a reason babies cry and you have to find it. Make sure to burp often, if breastfeeding make sure to eat really well, and if shes still crying stop eating dairy and see if it stops. Alot of babies have an allergy to dairy. These are just some ideas. Most important is that there is a reason for colic and its a baby hurting somewhere.

Answer 5

I just gave birth to a week ago today. My mom and sister live 11 hours away and are sometimes hard to reach by phone. I bought these two books to read What to Expect the First Year and the American Academy of Pediatrics The Complete and Authoritative Guide Caring for Your Baby and Young Child Birth to Age 5. They are both good books to read. They both explain everything from colic to constipation. How to indentify symptoms and a how to treat them. So when I got a question and can't get a hold of my mom or sister I can just look it up in one of these two books.

Answer 6

Too early to speculate about Colic. However many things you can do once baby arrives and is diagnosed with colic. Your pediatrician will urge you to read up on this and then show you proper things that can be done to ease your babies discomfort!
There is even a baby formula called nutramigen which is formulated to help reduce colic! Hope this helps!

Answer 7

If your baby has colic, try laying him/her on their stomach across your legs and rubbing their back. This sometimes helps. when you go to change a diaper as soon as you take the dirty diaper off, cover the baby up with a washcloth or a small towel, this prevents them from peeing all over you or the furniture. If you're going to nurse, just relax, it's frustrating at first, but you have to remember that this is their first time nursing as well, you have to learn together. Other tips, carry ziploc bags in your diaper bag, these come in handy when you have to change them somewhere, like your car or someones house and you don't want to leave a smelly diaper. Pampers sensitive wipes are amazing, also wipes can clean up almost any mess off of your clothes or theirs. Buy disposable changing pads, keep those in your diaper bag, they come in handy when you have to change them in a public restroom. dont worry you will be a great mom.

Answer 8

Everyone can give you advise, but the best thing I did when I was expecting my first (I have four) was go either to a bookstore, or library and find books on newborns, how to type books. There is a lot of good information out there, and you can leisurely read and absorb what information you are concerned about. It isn't easy being a first time mom because you just don't know and again, everyone has their own viewpoint. Read from experts that have written about the subject. Best of luck, god bless!

Answer 9

A lot of things just come naturally. One of the things that I have read about colic is to lay him across your lap, support the babies head and gently massage his back and legs. I would advise you go buy a book on parenting.

Answer 10

I had my oldest son at the age of 19, I was so scared that I wouldn't know what to do. My oldest is now 6 years old and couldn't be healthier. It's okay to be scared and all, but a mother's instinct comes with her child. You'll know what to do when your child gets here and if it's something that you can't handle, them your pediatrician is there to help you. Enjoy your baby, they are blessings from God. Good luck and God bless.