My boyfriend penis is small what do I do?

Answer 1

I've post this before but it fits your question like a glove. It’s a bit long but I’ve been told that is good.

Please don't listen to those people telling you to leave. Think about it, are going to run away from every challenge in your life? I know that it's easier to throw in the towel and run than to take the bull by the horns and deal with the problem. We live in a disposable society, in which if something doesn't work, throw it away and get a new one. Everything is disposable now days & that mentally has taken a hold on the way we deal with relationships. If he/she is “not good“, what the hell, let him/her go & get a new one. That shows you the poor mentality of those giving that advice.

May be this people have been watching to much TV, movies, porn, or listening too much to other people. You need to use common sense and separate what society thinks is normal or real and what reality really is real. Quite often there’s a big difference. Quite often we put unrealistic expectation on ourselves and others around us to meet our unrealistic expectations.

All of us have heard someone (specially women) saying that they are waiting for the perfect guy/girl, the guy/girl that will make her/him happy. The truth is that there’s no such thing as the perfect guy or girl. No matter how close that person is to perfect, there will always be things that we won’t like about them. And there’s not such thing as a person who’s going to come into your life and make you happy. If you’re an unhappy person, you are going to stay an unhappy person regardless of who comes into your life. He/she may temporarily make you happy, but on the long run, your unhappiness with yourself will surface & hurt your relationship.

The truth of the matter is that only YOU can make yourself happy. That is not only true when it comes to the emotional side of the relationship, but also on the physical (sexual) side of it. We need to take responsibility of our own emotional and SEXUAL happiness & stop putting those responsibilities on someone else. I think that people pass those responsibilities to the other person because that way it’s easier to blame that other person for the failure of the relationship. Which helps us not look and feel like losers. Haven’t you heard people talk about theirs ex’s & why the relationship ended ? Isn’t it funny how it’s always the other person’s fault? How often to you hear people blaming themselves? Not too often!

Now, do yourself a favor & think really hard about what I’m about to say…YOU DO NOT NEED A PENIS TO SATISFY WOMEN!!! If a penis is so indispensable when it comes to pleasing women, how is it that lesbians, who don‘t even have penises, can satisfy other women? I've talked to a lot of girls who swear that a skilled lesbian can satisfy them in ways that most guys, even with big penises, can only dream of. Oh & please, put aside the misconception that lesbians always use dildos & vibrators. Which is not true at all. I know some lesbians & bi females that have never owned nor used one. That's something that women do in porn movies because those movies are targeting men. I’m not saying that some don’t use them, but ask any lesbian that use them and they’ll tell you that they can live without them.

I think that everyone puts too much emphasis on size. Adding to the pressure that men already have to perform in bed so that he’ll be perceived as manly men. Men don’t want to be perceived as less manly than others and less capable of pleasing women. In a similar way that women don‘t want to be perceived as been less pleasurable than others. But in the case of women, it’s the opposite than men‘s. Small vaginas are better than large ones. The smaller & tighter a girl is, the better & more pleasurable she is! To some people and cultures, a tight vagina represents youthfulness, while a loose one represents old age and/or too much “use.” May be you’re the one with the problem, haven’t you stopped to think about that?

Just like men don’t like to amid that we have small ones, women don’t like to amid that they have large & loose ones. Have you ever heard a girl bragging about being big & loose? Which I find ironic, because women keep telling us that we shouldn’t worry so much about our size & yet, women are very sensitive about how pleasurable they feel to men. Tell a girl that she feels really loose & watch her reaction. Trust me, is not one of joy!

The reason they don’t understand us is because they are not made as much fun of & society does not put so much pressure on them to perform in bed as it does on men. For the most part, all a girl needs to do is to lay there & let the guy do all the work. If a girl feels loose, then she blames it on his "small" penis. I have a friend that has a 7 ½” penis (according to him & one of his exgirlfriends). Interestedly enough, one day he told me that his new girlfriend felt loose. When they broke up, she told people that he had a small penis. I guess 7 1/2" wasn't enough for her. It’s always the fault of the guy, isn't it? Go figure!

Stop worrying so much about his size & worry about educating yourself & your boyfriend in what it takes to really please women. Read books, magazines, ask your doctor, seek the help of a sex therapist, explore each other’s bodies, etc.

I used to have a 7” penis, after a surgery to remove some fibrous tissue that had built due to injury, I end up with a 4 ½” penis. At first I wasn’t too happy about, like most guy would too. But after a few months after my surgery, I’ve come to realized that it was a blessing in disguise. In fact, I never really wanted to have the size that I now have, but if I was given the choice of going back to my old size, I probably would. But ONLY as long as I was able to keep the knowledge that I’ve gained. If I were to lose that knowledge in the process of going back to my original size, I wouldn’t want to go back. NO WAY!

My new size has made me rethink about the way that I used to try to please women. I used to think that I was a great lover. Now I know that I never was. At least not to the extend that I could had been. I was pretty selfish like most guys.

I’ve spent a lot of time after my surgery listening to women talk about sex. Asking them questions about what they really want in bed & so on. After talking to a lot of them, including lesbians & bisexuals (I live close to West Hollywood, which in case you don‘t know, it‘s a gay community), I now have a better understanding of what women really want in bed. .

I compare sex with a nice romantic dinner. Our penis, regardless of size, is NOT the main dish on the table. Kissing, hugging, caressing…in other words, lot’s of affection is the appetizer. A full body massage with soft kisses all over her body is a great appetizer. Then comes the main dish, which is a combination of masturbation and oral sex (on her). Once she’s had enough (once she‘s pleased), then your penis becomes the dessert (and the main dish for us guys). Then comes the toppings (whip cream, nuts, etc.) on the desert. The toppings are the kisses, the holding and caressing that comes after sex while laying in bed together.

Unfortunately, most guys, specially “big” guys think that a couple of minutes of kissing, masturbation and/or oral sex is the appetizer, & their penis is the main dish & the dissert all rapped into one. Some guys think that the appetizer is the girl going down on them & not the other way around.

Take some responsibility for your own pleasure & spend some time to teach your boyfriend how you like your food cooked & served. The only way to achieve that is through communication. Put yourself in his shoes. If you felt loose & big to him, would prefer for him to share his feelings with you or would you prefer him to dump you for someone “tighter“? By him communicating with you, it gives you both an opportunity to look for answers together. Like consulting a doctor, doing pelvic floor exercises (such as quick vaginal contractions, contractions & holds, vaginal weights, etc.). Together, you may find solutions, other wise, all you are doing is running away from your own responsibility.

I’ll leave you with the following interesting fact. According to surveys (on penis size & the female orgasm) VERY FEW women ever achieve orgasms from penetration alone, & get this.. REGARLESS OF THE SIZE OF THE PENIS!!! Think about it woman!

Answer 2

have u measured it .....have u seen other boys' penis......if yes and still u feel that it is small try to use it ur way ....if it works continue .....otherwise think whether u loved him for his penis or his values and other qualities....if for his penis dump him & if 4 other reasons be with him and help him to gain confidence so that he can make u happy


by the u can engage urself in oral or finger sex with him it is always the best solution to short penis

Answer 3

What would you expect to do?

If you love your boyfriend, you love all of him. It shouldn't matter what size his penis is.

So next time a guy asks you out, will you ask to see his penis before agreeing to accept a date.

I'm sure your boyfriend would be mortified if he knew you asked this question on here.

Answer 4

there's nothing you can really do a small penis is a question of taste i mean maybe to you it seems small but to someone else may seem average, anyways not much do to about it if your not satisfied with it he may not be using it properly or your just not enjoying it enough

Answer 5

Do you have a problem with it or does he? There is nothing that can make it bigger so forget what you read even surgery will not help.So if you have a problem with it just have to get a new boy friend its not like your married.

Answer 6

That's huge!

Answer 7

Help him to develop a technique that pleasures you both. Size is not an issue.

Answer 8

should it really matter
love is what matter, not penis size
you cant do anything about it

Answer 9

Try different postions to see what works best

Answer 10

THERE ARE GROWTH PILL I DONT KNOW HOW SAFE OR HEALTHY THEY ARE BUT U COULD ALSO TRY WEARING 1000 CONDOMS LOL NAH UMM SOMETIMES IT DONT MATTER ON SIZE IT MATTERS HOW U USE IT TRY TO DO CRAZZY **** WITH HIM

Answer 11

What do you mean what do you do? It's not going to get larger if you pull his nose, for instance. LOL