okay so me and my friend brittany have been friends with her for a long long time!! like 6 yrs almost. but everyday she makes fun of us and makes fun of what we were and how we r "skinny" and she always is just soooo mean and tells us to shut up and stuff......but she lives next door to us and she calls us all the time to see id we wanna hang out and we always make uo excuses like my pants r in the dryer and we have to eat or take showers and yada yada ,.....but what do we do! we dont wanna be friends with someone who is mean and its sooooo hard to ignor her! what do we do?
2007-01-28 02:37:52 · 13 answers · asked by Krista K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Tell her that if she doesnt change her mean moody nasty behaviour your not gonna be friends with her. Tell her she has no right to be like that, if she doesnt change stop talking ot her just completely ignore her.
2007-01-28 02:48:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. It is very important for her growth and development if you tell her, giving concrete examples. Of course it is going to be explosive somewhat. No one likes to be criticized or corrected, but think about it. If there is a possibility of change on her behalf she has to know. I think a lot of folks are not aware of how their comments impact others. Plus you have power in numbers. You and Brittany together will be stronger then say if you or her talked to this girl separately. I mean if there is anything about her you and Brittany like, perhaps this will give her a chance to reflect and change. But change is slow. It can happen and does happen with people all the time, but if you do not bring something to someone's attention that is habitual, then how can they reflect and change? Good luck!
2007-01-28 10:46:16 · answer #2 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got a friend similar to yours...but I guess I'm a glutton for punishment because I still try to hang out with him. Lately though I've been giving him a taste of his own medicine by arguing with him when he is being rude and telling him flat out when he is saying things that are mean. This strategy shut him up for one night so far. Try sticking up for yourselves when she is being mean. She'll either decide to be nicer or may not call to hang out as much. Stick up for yourself! Good luck. Friends are a pain sometimes.
2007-01-28 10:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by metz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so uncomfortable right, you got to ask yrself whether if she still can make it as a friend if she is nice. If yes, try to find a time to let her know that her words are so hurting. If she willing to change, you got yrself a gd friend. But if you find that she is not worthy for friend, then ask her to stop calling anymore and tell her the reason.
2007-01-28 10:53:34 · answer #4 · answered by ButterMilkQueso 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know if she is at all mean to you all this time that you are neighbors, then i think you dont have to make excuses everytime she asks you to join her. after all she is not paying your company so she can abuse you with criticisms she can think of. tell her face to face that you dont wish to spend any second of your time anymore with her so she can have the satisfaction of seeing you get hurt with all these criticisms. if she doesnt like u at all, then you dont as well. then ignore her from then on. that way, you also put an end to ur sufferings.
2007-01-28 10:52:31 · answer #5 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she says something mean say, "I am sick of you saying such mean things to us. . If you can't be kinder, I'm not wasting my time hanging around you...it's just not worth it". Usually if you confront someone like that head on, they will back down. If she remains mean, follow through - say "Fine, I've had it w/you, and I am out of here. I bet you are the only ones who are even taking time to hang w/her, so she'll either learn to be nicer or become a hermit. :-)
2007-01-28 10:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by lma0814 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me that being a "friend" means that one is nice toward their other friends...and this person that you have known for a while does not seem very friend-like toward you. Move along.
2007-01-28 10:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, that she hurts your feelings, and if she does it again, then it would be best if you don't hang out any more. Tell her that you treat her with respect, and that you hope that she can treat you the same. I hope this works out for you!
2007-01-28 10:58:27 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. ask her why she is acting like this. after u talk to her if she still is being mean just stop hanging with her and stop talking to her. tell her u don't want to be friends anymore.
2007-01-28 11:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by ch3rryontop2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she calls u hang up and keep doing it every time and then when she confronts you and is like whyd u hang up on me? say o idk i think my phones broken and then walk away. If shes smart at all she'll get the point but if shes stupid she'll probly keep calling you so scream into the phone STOP CALLING ME B*TCH!!!!
2007-01-28 10:48:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋