my boyfriend is considering going into the army, and i want to know how this could affect our family life. I really dont know anything about the army so i dont know how all that stuff works but if anybody who is could please tell me how being in the army and having a family works out please let me know!!thankx...
2007-01-28 02:36:27 · 5 answers · asked by alex jade 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Family life.
Would you like to live in a $100 thousand dollar home in a beautiful neighborhood without crime? Thats base housing.
Would you like for your children to go to the best schools? Those are DOD schools.
Would you like to ski in the Alps, go to Oktoberfest, Cherry bloom festival, Dragon races? Would you like to live and shop in Italy, Puerto Rico, Japan, Germany, England, etc. etc? Thats where you could live, play, and shop.
Would you like your family to have the best health care available? for free? Thats the military health system. The birth of my 3 kids were free. Braces free.
Do you enjoy swimming, golf, camping, tennis, sky diving, horse back riding, scuba, water skiing, fishing, clubs, etc. etc.? Thats recreation services and wives clubs.
Would you like a Gov. job? Family members get preference in hiring.
Depending on your husbands job this is all available to your family. The first couple of years are the hardest until your husband gets some rank then things get real good. Tell him to get a skill not just be a ground pounder.
My family spent 25 years in the US Army. My children got the best education and lived in 5 countries. They knew and learned far more than the standard kid back in Ohio. They were far more mature than their peers outside the military.
My wife and kids sun bathed on the Rivera, skied in the Alps, fished in Gatun Lake, ran around Piccadilly Circle.
You have to want it and be willing to leave Mom, Stubinville Ohio and explore the world. Some times life sucked, some times she and the kids were alone but over all it was the best life possible.. We were sorry to leave the Army life when I retired.
Go see a recruiter and ask about the family.
Places my family lived: Ft huachuca Az in a sweet little house in Bonnie Blink.
Kadena, Okinawa, Japan
Bangkok, Thailand
Grass mountain, Taiwan
Stuttgart, Germany
Canal Zone, Panama
The real deal, glad you asked.
2007-01-31 04:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by Gone Rogue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends upon the couple. There are some families that make it work, but one of the questions on here was about a wife with two children stuck in Japan with an army husband who was abusive and running around on her while taking her passprt so that she was stuck there. If he is stationed in the U.S. you could probably be with him but if he is sent overseas, you will be here and him somewhere else in the world, including Iraq.
If he really wants to go into the army you may have to put a hold on the family life until he gets out, because the army will change him and if he is gone for too long, you may change yourself and get tired of waiting for someone who is never there.
2007-01-28 10:49:11 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It will affect your relationship & family life in many many way's.My husband was in the military and he is now a police officer.First you must have a strong bond in your relationship you have to trust eachother completely.You have to be willing to take risk's and beable to deal with them.You will have to be very independent because he will not be around much.When they are away in the military your communication with him will be very limited you will not be able to talk to eachother whenever you want to.When my husband was away in the military it was very hard but we adjusted.Now that he is back home and he is a police officer it is still hard because whenever he leaves for work I never know if I am going to see him again.So like I said you have to be very aware of everything that can happen.I suggest you go with your boyfriend when he goes to enlist and ask all the questions that you have and talk with your boyfriend because it is not easy to keep a relationship when you are not able to be together for long periods of time.But it can be done..Good Luck to you.
2007-01-28 10:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i can tell you this i am in the army and my wife hates it and to make it worst is that i am in iraq and it sucks you have to be strong to make it in the millitary and even more for the wifes cause i think its harder on them i love the millitary and i love my wife but i am getting out cause its not worth my wife i love her to much so if your boyfrend is smart tell him to go to school and if he still want to be in the millitary be an officer you make a lot more money and better life
2007-01-28 10:43:43 · answer #4 · answered by chad s 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go with him to the recruiting office...ask the questions...then sign up with him.
2007-01-28 10:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋