we all know its wrong(points to title).what about help for men or same sex couples though?
i have never it anymore,though it has happend to me.but i am a guy and also bisexuael.
where can men(that get beaten up by their boyfriends/wives/girlfriends)go?and what about gay women if their girlfriend beats on them?
is there help for those kind of things or is there only help for women getting hit by men?
(wonders if yahoo will delete this question next time).
2007-01-28 02:24:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i agree with you Semper Fi 83.only cowards beat on others.and whoever gave him/her 3 thumbs down needs help.
2007-01-28 02:40:24 · update #1
7lovetruth7...huh?
good on you melissa.glad that you are happy now and have a family.
2007-01-28 02:44:49 · update #2
Hmmm..if there is anyone out there over the age of 45,can you please care to email me?i need a more mature answer,and also someone with more life experiance.
2007-01-28 04:28:47 · update #3
Domestic violence is for Cowards!
2007-01-28 02:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 3⤋
Unfortunately, the awareness of same-sex partner abuse is low. Some people think that there can be no violence because male/male is aggressor/aggressor, and that women are passive so there's no crime - both completely false beliefs, but not unheard of. There's a large amount of underreporting (from both heterosexual women, and the LBGT population) because survivors are scared, or think it would do no good.
Getting help requires finding a counselor who can work with same-sex couples, or victims of same-sex partner abuse - battered women's shelters might be a good place for women to go, but the resources for men out there are pitifully scarce. Finding help means finding a personal therapist or counselor - usually LGBT therapists advertise within the community, so there are some resources out there. But on the whole, the medical community as a whole needs to do more prevention and provide more support.
2007-01-28 10:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was a victim of domestic violence, it took me a long time to pluck up the courage and leave. I now have a wonderful family life with someone who abhors violence of any kind. Anyone should report this type of behaviour to the police or confide in a friend or family member, if I had done this I wouldn't have had all those years of being afraid of the cowardly bully.
2007-02-05 08:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by jacee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong for anyone to be beat. If you can't defend yourself then call the cops and prosecute. Leaving is the key. Never stay with one that is abusive. You don't need a support group, (although you have one here) you just need to not be in the situation. I'm not gay. I was in a serious abusive relationship for about two years and I realized he wasn't going to change and I told him if you ever put your hands on me again I will kill him. I meant it. My mom begged me to leave because he would eventually do it again and she asked me was it really worth going to prison over or dying if he killed me because my threat would enter his brain the next time and might make him more violent. So I said I won't go to prison for him, so I left. He begged for nearly a year on the phone to please come back and I said NO, and he finally stopped calling me. I reported it and the cops were on it. He went into hiding. That was 20 years ago. I am so happy now. I was picky with finding a man for life and I have a great little family now.
2007-01-28 10:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know they don't advertise domestic violence help for men and that, but it is available you go through the same process as a woman would, it has to be reported the only reason they don't really advertise help for men is rarely do men come forward and admit to it, the problem is a lot of men feel ashamed especially if they are being beaten by a woman,
i do agree the advertising does need a little updating perhaps you yourself should directly contact one of the organisations and quiz them about it.
2007-02-05 10:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by chocchip24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what help currently exists, but the issue is gaining more and more attention. With same sex couples, people are more likely to assume mutual combat "they're just both fighting" than with a heterosexual relationship. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful, but you might ask around the local queer organizations, even if just out of curiosity.
2007-01-28 13:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also bi,but never been abused by the same sex,only the opposite sex. I've seen episodes of Cops where they've arrested same sex couples for domestic violence. Don't think it matters the sex according to the law.
2007-01-28 10:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Canada, depending upon where you live, there are some help agencies for domestic abuse solely for gays and Lesbians. However, I believe that most places that assist people who are victims of domestic violence will also help gays and Lesbians. The organizations are there to help and not to judge.
2007-01-28 10:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by castle h 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Here's a site with more info below. Remember, the help for abused women out there was pushed for and created by victims.
2007-01-28 10:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by American Spirit 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have dealt with both domestic and sexual abuse from a partner and she was arrested for the domestic plus got charged with 2 counts of 2nd degree sexual assault and one count of 4th degree sexual assault.
There are hotlines out there for gays and lesbians whether they are the victim or the abuser.
Gay & Lesbian National Hotline
1-888-THE-GLNH (1-888-843-4564)
2007-01-28 15:49:20 · answer #10 · answered by Scully 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Domestic violence is domestic violence! All of it should be reported. The sexual orientation of the person being abused shouldn't make a difference.
2007-01-28 10:41:08 · answer #11 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋