Is Couples Counseling Really worth it?

Question

My Fiance and I have been together for 2 years and we are really starting to fight and argue constently. We are both really stuborn people so that makes it worse. We have tried many times to make things work by ourselves, but we are now at wits end and need someone else. We have four beautiful kids not only do we want to make it work for them, but for ourselves.We love each other more then words could explain, and we want to make it work, but does counseling really help? Is it worth it? Will it help? PLEASE HELP!!!!!

Answer 1

Hello,
It all depends how you look at it.
Or you looking at it, I'm here only because other half wants me here, last resource, giving it a try or really do I want to give this marriage a chance?

Maybe just a little of all of the above - Good! At lest you know there is a problem and your willing to give a shot.
That's a start.

Remember a marriage is 50- 50 and with out the other
half's 50 % you might have to and be willing to hang in there.
The problem didn't arose over night.

Marriage counselling will help you if you go into the session /s with an open mind, willing to change somethings, listen and not put blame on one another.
Teach you to work with one others needs, wants and family goals.
When you leave the office you are going home with the thought in the back of your mind ,"THERE IS HOPE."

A better understanding on maybe knowing yourself better as well as your partner.

The bottom line is What is your marriage worth to you?

Good luck
Sandra

Answer 2

If two people are willing to work on the relationship, counseling will help. You all need pre-marital counseling because you all are not married yet. As I look at your post, you say you all are constantly arguing and are stubborn people which tells me that you all are not ready for marriage (sorry). Marriage takes more than love. It takes communication (without arguing), understanding from one another, compromising (very important) and respect. It's o.k. to have disagreements in a relationship but it shouldn't be a constant thing. If there's always or constantly disagreements in any relationship then that is a clear sign that the couple is not compatible. I recommend that you all seek pre-marital counseling and wait a while before saying I do especially if you want the marriage to work.

Answer 3

As long as you realize that you are not going to therapy to get advice. You are going to a forum where you can solve your own problems. The therapist may agree or disagree with what either of you may say. They ask a lot of questions to get to know you but this is really just to help you focus on your own problem in the effort that you will see a solution. Most relationship problems start in your childhood and focusing on how each of your parents interacted with you and each other will help you figure out why you're colliding with you mate.
You may not find a workable solution so be prepared for anything. If you haven't tried couples therapy before the best advice I can give you is to have an open mind. Seeing that you are both stubborn this may be the hardest thing to overcome.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

Yes it will. Counseling will help you see things that you all are probably omitting. Before my husband and I got married, we had pre-marital counseling from our pastor and I tell ya' it was a good thing. Getting pre-marital counseling helped us make good or sound decisions in our marriage that so many couples in today's time fell to do. The divorce rate is high in the U.S. so getting counseling will be helpful in you all case. You said the both of you are really stubborn. I must warn you before you get married that marriage takes a lot of work and compromising. If you both are stubborn and do not change your ways, your marriage will not work. Just a little advise, because you said you all are stubborn, constantly fighting, arguing and keep trying to work things out, seek counseling before getting married if you want the marriage to work.

Answer 5

YES, it is worth it. Counceling, especially pre-marriage counceling and marriage counceling are very good tools to help with the relationship.

Even in pre-marriage counceling they can teach you better ways of communication so when conflicts and issues come up, you will be able to resolve them without fighting and arguing.

The fact that your both stuborn people doesn't help. You BOTH need to put your pride aside for the betterment of your relationship, because if you don't, your going to be butting heads throughout your marriage and I feel that you will end up in divorce if you both are being stuborn and bullheaded. Yes counceling does work. My wife and I went through marriage counceling with a pastor from our church, and it really helped us both alot.

Also I know there are some pastors in churches who offer marriage counceling, but they also offer pre-marriage counceling and I think it's something that every couple should go through before getting married, because it can help teach you things that you can carry over into your relationship and marriage. Like conflict resolution.

Hope that this helps.

Take care and God Bless

Answer 6

Counseling can and will work only if both parties are willing to approach with open heart and mind and want the same result. Counseling isnt for everyone and edoesnt always work either but if both are willing to try whatever it takes to achieve the same result then chances are real good itll work. So yes its at least worth a try to save your relationship, but its totally up to you both and the kids. Good luck

Answer 7

You state you love
this means you are willing to invest time and effort and to make the extra work
then it will work for you!
coupling is about giving out a bit of yourself for your loved one.

a third person not involved and professional that will look at you and give you perspective can really work good
BUT IT START and END with YOU!

go to consult. if it does not work at the beginning- try another. and may I suggest to go on personal process too.

Answer 8

Yes it really is worth it if you want it to be.... I feel this is a great thing available for couples and a great opportunity to learn how to be the right person for the other one and to learn how each other feels and how to communicate your feelings and emotions better... People are too afraid of a good thing and that is why they think it is not really worth it.... Yes i feel it will help if you want it to....

Answer 9

it only works if you BOTH want it to work. if your both willing to giv it a try than go for it. sounds to me you both want it to work so do what it takes to make it work. What are you fighting about? fix the things your fighting about.Is it money? are either of you under alot of stress? address the issues to save the relationship.

Answer 10

If you love each other...
It would be worth it.
There's a reason you fell in love in the first place.
Just try and remember what that was.
Think about the beginning and not the end.
Good luck :)