He doesn't have a speech or hearing problem.
Am I right after asking nicely twice to tell him to either stop mumbling or shut the f$^% up.
Because frankly I am getting a little sick of it.
2007-01-28 02:11:10 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think all men dont like to repeat themselves at all. My father gets annoyed at my mother all the time when she cant hear him properly. Frankly i think it is a losing battle. You can either ask him to repeat himself and get in trouble for that or you can mis interpret what he says and get in trouble for not doing the right thing. So i dont think asking your husband to reaeat himself is unfair at all. Either he should talk louder so as to avoid the annoyance of repeating himself or not talk at all
2007-01-28 02:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you're not going to help the situation by telling him to STFU. Sit him down and tell him nicely that sometimes you can't hear him(he is talking lower than you can understand, or there is background noise, or he is in front of/behind you and that distorts his voice, these are some reasons why it is hard to understand him). Also, maybe you should both go get your hearing checked. Either his is failing(hence his mumbling), or you might have problems with yours.
2007-01-28 11:50:18 · answer #2 · answered by littlevivi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, I do not think is disrespectful, some men do it because they want to tell you something and they are afraid of what your reaction is going to be. This is my case. My husbands says something to me, and I asked...what did you say? he replies, what you did not hear me.....then I say I really did not hear you can you repeat it please.......and he said do not worry about it I was talking to myself.......then I tell him....then do not talk so loud as for me to know you are saying something, think in your mind. And that is the end of that. If he really wanted me to hear he would had said it loud enough so I could hear it. I do not argue anymore,.......I JUST IGNORE THE FOOL.
2007-01-28 10:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by Boricua Born 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you shouldn't tell him that, that is probably what is causing him to mumble, i mumble and my husbands says i can't here what you are saying so i get louder and it seems to me like i am yelling to him because i have a quiet voice, so you should just tell him you can't hear him could he speak up.
2007-01-28 10:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's at all disrespectful, because if you can't understand what he says, and if you need to know, he needs to talk more clearly.
I have a bad habit of mumbling sometimes, and my wife has to ask me to repeat myself as well. She gets tired of it too. I've gotten alot better about it myself.
2007-01-28 10:23:32 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or, you could just look at him blankly and walk away when he talks like that. I have a son that does this, he talks very low and very deep and turns away when he speaks (if he feels ashamed of what he is saying, or doesn't want anyone else to hear) and it drives me nuts when I have to ask over and over for him to repeat stuff ---he then thinks my hearing is going. So, do what I do, just look at him and walk away and don't worry about what he said, if it is important, he'll repeat it in a fashion that is understandable.
2007-01-28 10:18:55 · answer #6 · answered by XOXOXOXO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through, and it is disgusting. I tell my husband that he better make sure if he tells me something important, that I have heard it, cause I am not going to constantly ask him what he said.~~~We are doing much better now. If I don't understand it, I don't respond, and then he is left, with having to make sure I heard. If I had known how well this would work, I sure would have put it into action sooner~~~
Are you sure your hearing is OK.??. That could also be another reason one does not hear another well. People who don't hear well are in denial in the beginning of their hearing loss.~~~Jill
2007-01-28 10:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL My husband mumbles too and I can't understand a dang thing he is saying half the time. No I don't think it is disrespectful to ask your husband to repeat himself. Heck, you can't understand him.
I have had to ask my husband to speak slower and louder, becuz I am tired of asking him to repeat himself. Try that and see if it helps.
Good luck.
2007-01-28 10:27:51 · answer #8 · answered by brytezes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
madam - did he mumble before you got married? mumbling usually isn't a newer habit to develop. perhaps it is with you the hearing problem doth lie.
explain to him you are unable to understand his speech and that his speech pattern has you feeling very frustrated.
good luck
2007-01-28 14:32:05 · answer #9 · answered by gypsysoul52 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What? tell him to speak up. Is he a low talker i hate that my brother talks real low and mumbles. To me its a sign that they really dont care.
2007-01-28 11:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by sirjames 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋