i have a parent dilemma..?

Question

my mom found a number in my dad's phone, she called it and it was a woman. she was all upset, thinking that he is cheating. i think she is overreacting but now i don't even know. what should i do? is my mom overreacting?

Answer 1

I don't know anyone who doesn't have a member of the opposite sex's number on their phone. That doesn't mean that they are having an affair! What worries me is that your mother thinks she has a right to breach your fathers privacy by snooping in his phone in the first place. I don't know their full story so I'm just guessing here but your mother seems to have a trust issue with your father. Maybe she has reason and maybe not but snooping isn't the way to go about making things better.

Answer 2

Your dad needs to come clean about the phone number and the woman who answered the phone. Your parents need to have a conversation that opens up all the closed doors and answers all of your moms questions. Parents are people too and your dad could have made a mistake by calling another woman or he could have dialed a wrong number. If this phone number is no big deal then he shouldn't have an issue with your mom calling the number and talking to the woman.

My one piece of advice to you is to let your parents deal with this issue. You are a product of both people-- both parents and you can't take sides on this. Like I said, parents are people too and they can deal with their own issues.

They're lucky to have a child that cares.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Why don't you call the woman and find out. Ask her. Then the two of you will know for certain and can quit getting dramatic over nothing. My Dad has lots of women's phone numbers (for business or friendship purposes) but I know he loves my Mom --and he sure acts like he does---however, your Mom would know better than you, she is in an intimate relationship with him and will have noticed any change in behavior on his part....call the woman and ask if she knows him...then tell her you are his daughter (she'll be more likely to answer your questions, than to answer your Mom's questions) and ask her if she sees him socially....you'll be able to figure out some diplomatic questions that will give you a better idea of the nature of his relationship with this woman.

Answer 4

I don't know why your Mom would be looking at numbers in your Dads' phone, but you should not get involved in your parents personal relationship. If your Mom is thinking that your Dad is cheating, that is something that the two of them have to talk about.

I don't know why you would even know this is going on. You need to let your parents work out their relationship between themselves. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 5

I think the best thing you can do is let your Mom and Dad worry about this. This is between them and I know that in the long run(If he is cheating) this may effect your life..But honey there is absoulutly nothing you can do and you getting in the middle of this will not help you at all and Your mom should have never involved you in the first place.

Answer 6

if your old enough you ring the woman ask her who it is. confront ur dad about it and work it out as a family, because if your mums upset she wont see it clearly. do this only if your dad isnt the aggressive type.

Answer 7

This is between both parents and you should not have been brought into it.
Anyway it could be quite harmless.

Answer 8

Mind your own business.

Answer 9

your dad is the only person who has an explanation

Answer 10

Leave them alone. Let them take care of their business, you take care of yours.