My boyfriend "moved out" of MY home in my name after a violent episode between us. He took some of his things, forwarded his mail, and is now staying with a friend. He has not nor will not pay me for last months household expenses as he was the past 2 years. He wont return emails and has changed his phone number, is he entitled to his things?
2007-01-28 02:00:51 · 14 answers · asked by questioninny 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
do I have to let him in my home to get his things, he has tons of boxes, a drum set, and some furniture. He has no income or very little at this moment, and the worst credit ever, not sure he will find an apartment in a timely fashion...
2007-01-28 02:21:28 · update #1
change the locks, sell his stuff
was the violent episode reported to police? if so, get a restraining order
2007-01-28 02:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by chumpchange 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is entitled to his belongings yes. If you two had a lease, then he is legally obligated to pay rent til the lease is up. If these things are true, then take him to small claims court. If they are not true, let him go and stop trying to reach him.
Find another love, and this time, don't be so willing to share your home with him. Let them keep their own home and pay their own damned bills. Good luck.
Addendum: You can arrange to have him pick up all of his things on one day. If you don't, he could actually have the police come and make you let him in. Have all of his things all ready and waiting when he gets there. Don't give him the satisfaction of a scene. If he has nowhere to go and nowhere to store his stuff, this is no longer your problem dear. Let him take it. If he refuses to move it, make sure that you have documented your efforts to have him remove it and take him to court. Maybe, just maybe, you can get a little storage fee out of it.
2007-01-28 02:07:35 · answer #2 · answered by Firespider 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he still owns those things and you can't hold items against a debt without a court order - you could end up in jail. Arrange for some friends to be there, and then set a time when he can collect his things. Notify him by certified mail, and include in the letter that if the things are not collected at that time, you will consider all remaining items 'abandoned'. That gives you authority to dispose of them as you wish if he does not turn up to collect them.
Make sure you have witnesses to what is in the letter, and when he turns up to collect his things.
2007-01-28 03:28:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To make sure he doesn't sue you later, send him a registered letter to his friends. Tell him he has 2 weeks to pay what he owes and remove his possessions. Keep a copy of the letter and his signature from the registration at least a year. If he doesn't respond after a month get rid of his stuff. If he is violent just be happy you got rid of him.
2007-01-28 02:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will not be getting any more $$ from him and he probably took the 'things' he really wanted.
If you feel some obligation to him about the 'things', have them moved to a storage unit and send him the key.
If he doesn't want them, the storage facility will sell them off.
Do not have any other contact with a violent person than to mail them the storage locker key with the address.
Pay the 1 month storage in cash & do not give them info to keep on charging you.
2007-01-28 02:13:44 · answer #5 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is more desirable of a relationship question lol - I comprehend no longer leaving your cat in the back of, yet have you ever talked on your boyfriend about this? it is his mom regardless of each and everything, how does he sense? the reality is you'll get allergy drugs, people do all of it the time and if both of you settle you go with to take the cat then it is her determination (and her loss) if she refuses to visit because of it. even if my chum only went by ability of this jointly with her dad - he reported the same component yet particular sufficient he's composed of visit each and every of the time :)
2016-10-16 05:22:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lawfully - yes probably so. Check local laws regarding this - there should be a time limit.
Sounds like you are lucky to be rid of him - maybe you should forget about the last months expenses.
2007-01-28 02:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by 63vette 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just forget him and move on with your life, and be glad that you are not in that kind of relationship, find someone that will give you the respect you need. with his other belongings . if you know where he is staying bring it to him and drop it off at the door. and leave. why have those stuff just to remind you of him.
2007-01-28 02:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possession is 9/10th of the law. It would be up to him to dispute that they are his things which would be very hard to do. He owes you money that will be very hard to retrieve. Sell his stuff and write him off.
2007-01-28 02:11:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hold them 90 days, if he is a no show, sell them in a yard sale.
2007-01-28 02:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by pedohunter1488 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋