1-month-old baby question?

Question

Some background - I'm 13,last month I gave birth to mypremature born twin daughters,one is still at the hospital and the other is with me at home already a week.
She doesn't stop crying.All the time!After I feed her,change her diapers,rock her,do everything,she doesn't sleep,but just cries(my parents help me but I'm the one who does almost everything on my babies).Crying the whole nights and days.When she cries I'm afraid she doesn't breathe.But she doesn't have mulligrubs(the doctor has said that).Is it just her temper or the fact she was born premature(in the 7th month) or the fact I can't breastfeed her because my breasts are not well developed and it's very painful for me?Would the other baby be the same too?
Are there new mothers who would like to write with me and we could help each other with advice?

Answer 1

You should check your formula. Ask the doctor.


A baby bouncer, or swing, though the baby is probably really small and don't leave her unattended even for a minute.

I can tell you that if she is crying she is breathing.



Good luck, to you.

Answer 2

My daughter was born 3 months early and was in the NICU for 4 months. When I was finally able to bring her home, she cried almost nonstop for the first two weeks! I was scared at times, but I had lots of support from my husband and I could call the NICU nurses ANY time and ask them questions.

Also, what helped me understand my micropreemie better was that I had nurses coming to my home once a week to see how she was doing, etc. It's a free program for preemies...but I don't know how it is in other states (I'm in California). Check with your social worker at the NICU and ask if there are any free services that could help you.

You could try swaddling her...wrapping her in a blanket snugly (but not so tight she can't breathe), and holding her close and making "shhhh" or "shoooshhhh" sounds...the sounds are close to the ones she heard in the womb (the sound of the amniotic fluid around her). But you're doing right by first checking if she's hungry or needs a diaper change, rocking her, etc. You actually sound very intuitive for being only 13 and going through such a difficult time...keep it up! And if you ever need help, you should definitely feel ok about asking one of your parents for a little.

If you EVER need to just talk or anything, feel free to email me!

Answer 3

Every baby is different. You should not base on this baby and compares to the other one.

Does she has enought to eat? Is her diaper wet? Try to get her into a schedule so it will be easier for you. Rest when she is napping during the day because your body just went through a big deal. You need to be rest in order to take care of your baby.

Join a teen parenting group at the hospital or at her local health center. You will meet other mother around your age who you can relate and shares parenting experiences with. You will feel connect to other mother who live in your area and talk whenever you feel strees. Such as only a phone call away compare to hear. Whenever we have a free moment we go on line.

Keep your chin up. I give you a lot of credit for taking your responsibilities as a young mother. Having twins is twice the work but hang in there.

Is the father in the picture? Does he gives you support that you need?

Answer 4

It's simple really, babies cry. Some more than others. Have you tried switching formulas, maybe her tummy's getting upset. have you noticed any excess gas? She may need a sepcial formula, lactose free, soy, something. Talk to her pediatrician. She may also have colic which is a crying fit that lasts for several months with no good explanation. Try letting her sleep in a baby swing, both my kids loved that. And feed her when she's hungry....a schedule doesn't always work too well for young infants. I'm sure you've tried the pacifier. Also you can try sitting in a warm bath with her in your lap. Baby baths are way too cold...but make sure her umbilical cord has fallin off also.

Answer 5

I usually wouldn't say this, but I think it is great you kept your babies and are raising them practically yourself. That takes a lot of guts. Hopefully you finish school.

But back to the question. She may miss her sister, have colic, or gas. If burping her does not work, then it is not gas. She spent all that time with her sister and now they are away from each other. Would it be possible to let her visit her sister? Maybe that would help. Also, check with the doctor to see if she is okay. You might be able to simulate breast feeding or pump to give her the breast milk. Some people can't breast feed. My mom couldn't.

Good luck. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

some babies do have a un common crying pattern due to pre mature birth, but its most likely because u are not matured yourself. Not only does your baby feel withdrawn because of her being taken away from constant feeding through your body, she has also no breast milk. Think of breast milk as a nicotine patch for when the baby quits being dependent on your body. bit of a strange way to put it but hope this helps. Your other baby may get used to dependability because of being in the hospital for longer so therfore not making as mutch fuss al the time. dont worry your baby will be fine as long as you treat her well. Good luck on bringing up your new born children :)

Answer 7

All babies are born with their own personalities. I had one that slept all the time and one that was up 23/7. I know it's hard, hang in there. Babies can sense your feelings and if you are stressed or upset, the babe can pick up on that and be fussy and cry. I didn't breast feed (I had milk fever), so that is not an issue. If you bottle feed her, hold her close and softly speak and/or sing. She will feel comfort in you and relax. Being a baby is hard on both of you and I wish you all the luck in the world. Be sweet to them and they will respond well.

Answer 8

My goodness darling, you have such a handful at such a young age, I feel for you. If you are trying to breastfeed, you may not have enough or enough nutrients to fulfil her needs, babies cry for absolutely everything, they are dependant on you. They cry when they are hot, cold uncomfortable, hungry, when something is hurting them such as their nappy sticking in to them, constipation, when they need to be burped more. You are best to have a nurse to go to for regular checks and ask for a hotline so that you can call them when you have a problem. Go to some sort of classes to learn more on handling your baby. but if you need someone just to talk to my email is- [e-mail]
I am 30 with a 4 month old another one on the way soon, I live in Australia.

Answer 9

She may have gas from the formula. Ask the pediatrician if a soy based formula may be better for her? It's hard to tell if the other baby will be like that because we don't know what is ailing her. But I will say that after looking at your grammar and the way you worded yourself you sound like a mature 13 year old. It' very respectful that you are trying to raise your little girls at such a young age. Congrats on your girls and good luck.

Answer 10

i'd not. i must be frightened of the acids interior the applesauce frightening her abdomen. interior the first few months of life, they devour plenty. They boost a lot that they go with each and every of the foodstuff they could be able to get. It also takes them some time to get a feeding time table set up, so provide her some time. I had my youngest son on enfamil, yet wanting to attempt a more low-cost kind. i spotted authentic immediately that the low-priced stuff did not keep on with him very lengthy as he began desiring a bottle pretty a lot each and every a million a million/2 hours. of direction the low-priced stuff wasn't from now on low-cost, so I swapped him lower back and he went lower back to a common feeding trend. provide her some time to get regulated, and if that would not artwork then refer on your Dr. about swapping formulation.