We have to sell our house and move soon to another state..(from NY to SC) all my family is here in NY and my dad is in a nursing home..I visit him @ least 3x a wek and talk on the phone to him 3 times a day !! My husband wants to start his own business and all the reasserch weve done tells us our best bet will be in SC... I approached this subject with my mom last year and she practically freaked out !!.. I know I have to do whats right for my family (Im married with 2 small children)..but how do I convince my mothe she has to be more accepting of our decision ??? Im torn.. about my dad..he will be Devastated if we leave.. we just cant afford to stay here and support our family..Help any ideas ?
2007-01-28 01:32:15 · 8 answers · asked by DRD 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
your immediate family first always and you will not lose the family that raised you by moving. life will be different that's all and you will learn to cope. the choice to have your own family shows you are a mature person that can live with change. just sit down and instead of freaking on the move, find ways to make it a wonderful challenge with a positive outcome.
2007-01-28 01:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by blueJean 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having dealt with a similar situation with a family who lived in Pittsfield massachusetts. They were having the same issues. So While i was there helping them get loaded up to move, i suggested that perhaps they ought to take the parents with them.
The parents overheard me telling the son-in-law this, i said family needs to stay close as possible these days. Well two weeks after we got them moved to North Carolina. The parents put thier house up for sale and sold it and then called and asked me to help them move to North Carolina.
You might consider suggesting that to them. S.C. is a good state, much warmer than new york and cost of living and doing business in that state is cheaper than New York. Nursing homes i'm told are cheaper as well.
2007-01-28 09:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the long distance plans available today, you can still talk to your Dad several times a day, fairly inexpensively. You won't get to see him as much, no, but you can talk to everybody as much as you want to. With webcam, and the internet, you can even see them. Ask your Dad to invest in a laptop, and camera, and he can still see his little girl when he wants to. There is NO ideal solution, and I understand your dilemma, but you just have to do what you have to do. I hurt my parents when I moved where I live now, but I have never regretted moving for one minute.
2007-01-28 09:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is not accepting this, because she wants to be closer to your family, the grandkids especially, but if this is the right decision for your family, she will have to accept it.
Just try and be understanding.
2007-01-28 09:35:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to leave family; Especially if you have family in need. But if you can't afford to stay there then you have to do what you have to do.
2007-01-28 09:41:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in short i know how expensive it is to live in ny just be upfront you cant afford to live there anymore and u will miss them all and your desition to move has nothin to do about them but the fact ny is expensive place to live...good luck
2007-01-28 09:49:11 · answer #6 · answered by paul lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom you have to take care of your young family.
If you can't afford it, you can't. Period.
Keep in contact with them.
2007-01-28 09:36:58 · answer #7 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to do it its for the kids not for you just tell them later they will forgive i went though the whole thing to you all will be just fine
2007-01-28 09:51:47 · answer #8 · answered by matty21620 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋