How do i get over it??....i still have the memories and they scare me ={?

Question

ok so i was rapd for the last time a year ago i was raped by my uncle, my bf has been a big help with this and so has my family, but i cant get over it. i always have those images in my head of that night. and it just creeps me out, and it seem. he had been raping me since i was 11 and it stopped when i was 13(he was arrested, my aunt caught him) i just cant get it out of my head, i have other issues that i've been having before i was raped, my parents were really abusive. i live with my grandparents now, but my psyc DR isnt really helping, she trys and she is nice but i have a very hard time trusting people. and i just dont no wat to do, im 14 now and im pg, my bf lives with me now(we live with my grandparents) but i just want those memories gone, what should i do??

i have been playing the cello for 7 years, i have bunny i love, i've been raising my little brother since he was born(hes 3 and THINKS IM HIS MOMMY, i go to church, my gramma has tried to get me to talk to the chief and or shawmins, but somethin about them intimidates me, i believe in native american gods as well as the cristian god

Answer 1

I'm not a psychologist, but I see you haven't received any answers yet, so I'll try! If nothing else, I can give you my sympathy, because what you've been through was certainly traumatic. Also, not having supportive parents must be sooo hard.

Your memories will probably not go away, but they will gradually fade. The main thing is that you'll have to deal with your life and its realities the best you can. Even though you've had hard times, you can make a decision to become stronger through your experiences and grow into a happy, balanced human being by concentrating on the good things in your life and thinking about your bad memories as little as possible.

I've been through hard times myself, and what carried me through was friends who prayed for me one night - it was an amazing feeling. It felt as if a big black cloud was lifting. I believe in the power of prayer, so look for support among Christian friends and maybe at your local church.

Answer 2

Those events would be a huge trauma for an adult , but they are even more trauma for a child.
Hopefully the convicts will 'euthanize' your mentally ill uncle, but that won't clear your head.
Those events are like having a volcano dump a bunch of lava on your house. The only thing you could do would be to start clearing it away 1 stone at a time.
You must start putting good things into your head, make a conscious effort to seek out beautiful parks, music , art work , and very talented people.
You will never actually forget that awful time (and you should eventually counsel other kids on reporting bad adults) but if you deliberately fill your life with good experiences, in time they will add up and be greater than the awful time.
Spend no less than 2 hours a day seeking out good things.
You are in our prayers

Answer 3

I am so sorry for you. That is so much for a young person to go through.

Unfortunately, the memories are never going to go away. They are a part of what has made you who you are today. I know it will not help but take it from someone who has been there. That which doesn't kill you will make you stronger. All I can tell you is that every time the memory enters your head, tell yourself,"I will never let that happen to me again". Realize that it was never your fault and that you did nothing to cause that rapes.

And last but not least: get a new doctor. If the one you have isn't helping, then get a new one. You have to find a doctor you can trust.

Good Luck and I will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 4

I am so sorry for you. I am also sorry to tell you that the memories from that night will never fully go away. My experience has been that if you let it, and only if you let it, it will eat away at you until you want to die. For your sake, and that baby's, you need to get control. You cannot let him control you any longer, break the power your uncle has. He's gone, and you are moving on. In time your wounds will begin to heal over a little. Live your life, be a good mother, (and wife if it ever happens for you), and try to move on. Don't dwell, it will Only make it worse. When it pops into your head, get involved in doing something and push it out of your mind. Also, you may want to look for a new Dr. to talk to. They all have a different approach to helping people, and you just need to find the one that will help you best. Good luck!

Answer 5

I am terribly! I can't imagine the trauma you have gone through.

First of all, receive my best compliments, since you have already began to do something about it. Yes! Seeking some type of help is the best thing you can do.

Besides therapy, which you have already had, I advice you to:

Keep yourself busy: get a hobby (one that requires attention and knowledge) or get a job. Being busy is so helpful to avoid bad thoughts.

Concentrate in the present. You have a traumatic past, but now you have people who love you and care for you: that loving boyfriend and grandparents. Share time and activities with them, that will help you attract yourself to the present and avoid detaching and submerging in the past.

Practice some type of sport and / or outdoor activity.

Try not to be alone. Good company avoid that internal conversation that brings back those bad memories.

Get spiritual help. If you believe in God, get spiritually active. Exercising spiritual be lives brings internal peace. This will help you be at peace with yourself.

I wish you the best, and encourage you to, always, seek foe help.