ok..so the father of my 3 month old daughter hasn't seen her yet since she was born..a week after i gave birth, i sent my sister over where he works so that he can at least visit the baby..he said he's already married and he didn't call..i took some legal action and hired a lawyer for child suppport and patternity matters...he got the letter and he wanted a DNA test..then a company of DNA testing called wanting me and my daughter to come in for testing but i asked my lawyer and he said it has to be court ordered...his sister requested the test..the child is his...she's like a female version of him...i don't think his wife knows...why is he acting this way?
2007-01-28 01:26:10 · 21 answers · asked by Irish C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is he acting this way? Because he doesn't believe you. He thinks that you must be some kind of a ho for sleeping with him, and a stupid one at that since a baby came out of the deal. Now that you've had a baby and play time is over, he doesn't want any kind of involvement with you. It doesn't seem like he ever really cared about you. If he wants the DNA test, let it happen. But even if it would be nice to be a prick right back and make him have to court order the DNA test, it would slow you down on getting the child support. The DNA test, unless the baby might not be his, is actually in your best interest. Take him for all the money he's got and as soon as you can get it. If his wife doesn't know, she'll find out eventually. It's called karma, and the **** is finally hitting the fan.
2007-01-28 01:59:32 · answer #1 · answered by maya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Golly, a married guy not real happy about fathering a child with his "on the side" woman. Who could imagine such a thing? Next, we'll hear that the sun rises in the morning, or some other total suprise. As for why he wants the DNA test, without letting his wife find out about it- He MIGHT have neglected to tell wifey that he was playing with you, and he's hoping that since you've behaved like a slutt, you were also sleeping with other guys as well as him; and the child was fathered by some other male slutt.
2007-01-28 02:18:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/c he dont want to pay..the new wife probably dont know and he doesnt want her to find out. Ask your lawyer to have him served with a court ordered DNA test..Once the test comes back that he is the father you can seek to file for child support..If he wants to be involved that would be in the best interest of the baby..if not well thats his problem but he still needs to help out financially.
I am divorced. My ex at first only wanted to care for our son on his days if it wasnt my day he would tell me it was my problem deal with it and hang up. I missed a lot of work that year. As the years have gone by he has gotten more involved and actually calls and asks for more time.
2007-01-28 01:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean why is he acting this way...he as has every right to know that the child is in fact his before he pays up. Just as you have every right for child support.
His wife should be of no concern to you. Your only concern is that child and being sure she is cared for. Your lawyer, should know that if this goes to court...they will require a DNA test anyway. DUUUUHHHH! It doesn't matter what the child looks like.
2007-01-28 01:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yor lawyer is WRONG. If there is no dought in your mind the baby is his why would you not do the test. The test will give you the proof to make your married guy pay child support. You not taking the test makes me think you're not sure he in fact is the father. Also why don't you be more selcective and careful with whom you sleep with. Unprotected sex makes babies or are you aware of that. Next time maybe get to know the guy before you sleep with him.
2007-01-28 01:51:13 · answer #5 · answered by Barry W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you acting like you are if you have nothing to hide go get the test done and make him pay for it.If there are any questions about paternity then having the test done will confirm it.No one wants to pay child support where it maybe possible that its not theirs so have the test done.Court ordered paternity test is as such the court pays for it, when it is determined if he is the father then they make him pay for the cost, if its not his then the state pays for it.Or you can go on Maury to hear you are the father..One other thing why were you messing around with a married man?
2007-01-28 02:00:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st- listen to your lawyer
2nd- please know that if you continue with this request (and yes he should be responsible for his child) he can try to take your daughter away from you. I would stop and think for a moment if you really want him involved in your daughters life. If I had it to do all over again...I wouldn't have EVER pushed for my sons father to pay child support or be involved when he didn't want to be. My life has been a stressful drama ever since... (and I would NEVER trade my son for anything in the world.)
3rd- I agree, no further contact with him...tell him that he can communicate through a lawyer, that is all!!!
Good luck to you and your daughter! You have been blessed with the wonderful and sometimes exhausting fortune of being a mommy!
2007-01-28 01:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by daisy31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever watch the court shows on tv today? well, him wanting a dna test is just a bunch of talk to delay the enevitable.
I have 2 boys 2 daddys & Im married to one of the dads.
1. stop trying to guess why he is not stepping up to the plate, you will never know why
2. dont worry about him or his own life, like weather he has a wife and family or if he has financal problems. (you have to much on your plate to waste you worries on him)
3. go through the courts and make him step up and have child support taking outta his pay check and mailed to you.
4 set up court orderd visitations, weather he visits with the child or not.
5 dont go for joint custdoy, that means he will get the baby half the time so you would be forfitting child support.
You will find a man that will love you so much that he will treat your child like his own, ask me I know.
And in time your child will know what kinda person his dad is (dont bad talk him, you dont have to his actions speak loud enough, my son is now 18 and he knows what kinda dad his real dad wasnt.)
2007-01-28 01:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by Laurie X 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's mad. and it's better to find out if the child really is his before he tells his wife. IF he really is married. AND on top of that, he's going to have to pay for the paternity test, at least that is how it is in MD, you have to pay for the test if you are the father. so just let him be an a**hole. he'll get his.
i kinda have the same situation. my son's father hasn't seen him either but i didn't file for child support cuz i want nothing to do with him. and he isn't on the birth certificate so if he ever tries to get custody he will have to get a paternity test, and he will have to pay for it.
2007-01-28 01:32:53 · answer #9 · answered by pikachu 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay....let me get your story straight. He's a married guy who knocked you up and now doesn't want anything to have to do with you?
Go ahead and take the DNA test. You know it's his, right? It will be legal proof to all that it is his daughter.
Whatta creepy jerk for a) cheating on his wife and b) ditching you like that.
If this scenerio is correct, dear, this means that he doesn't want to have anything to do with the baby because his wife will find out and divorce him.
I wish you and your baby the best of luck. You can email me if you want...
2007-01-28 01:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋