Im 19. My parents dont accept my girlfriend cause she is a different race. I am Tamil and my parents want to get me a Tamil girl. I have a Sinhalese girlfriend, and my parents said that if i marry her then they will disown me. What can i do?! I dont want to be unfair to my girlfriend. Even though it will hurt, i think I have to eventually break it off but not too far away, I dont want to lead her on and then break her heart. I think its her right to meet other people, I dont mind being miserable, I just want her to be happy. Please someone help me.
2007-01-28 01:23:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to do what your parents say UNTIL you reach a point where you no longer foresee needing your parents to
1) feed you
2) fund you
or
3) furnish you with shelter.
When you are truly self-sufficient and don't need them, then you are living for YOU.
Before then, you are trying NOT to bite the hand that is feeding you.
2007-01-28 01:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your parents ruin a good thing for you. If you and your girlfriend truly love each other, then by all means marry her. But seeing you are so young I would wait a few years. If the two of you are still together then go for it. Don't worry about your parents if they truly love you all they will want is to see you happy and will come around once they see that you are.
2007-01-28 05:06:40 · answer #2 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like the person above me said, Dont let your parents ruin your happiness, if they really cared about you they would be happy with whoever makes you happy, Isnt that what parents tell their kids, "We just want you to be happy"So if they disown you, just because you married a girl from a different race, then so be it. They must have not cared about you from the start, If something that simple will cause them to do something like that.
2007-01-30 02:51:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't really answer that because I am from America and here we love who we choose to love.Yes we still have racisim,but in general.we marry who we choose to.You have been raised to do as your parents wish so who can tell you to go against what you have always been taught?You must be a man and make this decision for your self,to be honest if you can't make the decision that will please you then I wouldn't want you for a husband.
2007-01-28 01:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my culture we can marry for love with any race or culture, tho sometimes our parents do ask why?
In your culture family and there wishes come first, so you either go against your family or stay with the lass.
Question who can you live with out long term ?
2007-01-28 01:37:04 · answer #5 · answered by LMH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help who you love. It's your freedom to choose whoever you want to marry, not them. If you love this girl and she is really worth it to you....do what YOU want, not them. They are not the ones who are going to be your wife, wake up with you every morning, have your children. If they truly love you, they will come around....if not it is completely their selfishness and their loss!! Good Luck....live your life for you because at the end of the day your the one who has to deal with it.
2007-01-28 01:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats mean.
2007-01-28 01:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by tantric132 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋