WOW WHERE SHOULD I START? I have been a relationship for 3 years now. It have been rocky from the beinging. I n the beginging I have to admit it was my fault.. I didn't help him out with the bills, basically I let him do all the work. And i relize what i was doing and i started working helping out with the bills giving more then he has basically. Since he has been with me. " no lie" he has had over 25 jobs, either he does not get along with his boss or he jus don't like it at all. I even told him that he could stay home and I will work, so he could go to school and find his carrerr that suit him. he says he loves me and thatt he wants do be with me. But honestly i believe is is miserable with his life and him beinging miserable is bringing this relationship down ...what can i do HELP
2007-01-28 01:05:42 · 6 answers · asked by helpless 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, do you love this guy? Because it sounds like he is very depressed and needs some professional help, and that is a long road to go on with someone.
Are you happy? It doesn't sound like you are. Can you imagine having a child with him? What about insurance when he is switching jobs constantly.
Honestly, you aren't married to him, I didn't hear you say that you are in love with him. Leave while you can. You deserve a happy, fulfilling life. It sounds like he has some growing up and living to do. Good luck!
2007-01-28 01:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by daisy31 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd look after yourself first. Get a job and support yourself, then you can also help with bills and he can find a job he enjoys. If he just doesn't always get along with his bosses he probably has a serious attitude problem. In THAT case, I'd get out while you can. He will never change and just bring you down with him. It sucks when you have to always support someone and they don't help. It has to be a two way street.
2007-01-28 01:10:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend who is not happy with himself. He feels the need to buy expensive things to be happy. His wife knows they cannot afford these expensive items and he gets angry as he works hard and feels he deserves these items. They moved out of the country and she is not allowed to work as they do not want foreigners to take their jobs. Financially this is a hardship on him, especially when he wants the finer things in life. They have other issues in life and it boils down to this. Both have "issues" in each others lives. It is getting to the point that they are starting to say hurtful things to one another and not communicating.
It is important that you keep the lines of communication open for feelings about tough subjects. I had another friend that cannot keep a job for whatever reason too. She wound up kicking him out as he just couldn't stay with one thing and commit to it.
You need to sit down with him and have a heart to heart conversation with him. Be honest with your feelings and let him be open about him. Don't be accusatory, but be open about what are the real issues. Objects and material things don't make people happy. What is it that he wants to accomplish in his life, what is it that you want to accomplish in your life? Your goals, your passions? Make a list and then discuss how realistically you think you both can get there. What are each of you willing to do and what do you don't want to do to get there. You can say what you are willing to do to help each other to get there. Don't fall into the trap of using one another to get there. There has to be a give and take if you are both willing. Life is hard, but it has it good times too. Pray about it together. I will say a prayer for you too. Don't be afraid to talk about the good and the tough stuff. Hugs are always free.
If it doesn't work out together, at least you will know more about what you want and where you are going and maybe he will be better the know of the same for himself.
2007-01-28 01:19:29 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he says he wants to be with u, and he feels good working hard i dont see anything bad with that, but if u see that hes being miserable, dont ask him just find a job and he will feel with less pressure.
2007-01-28 01:13:05 · answer #4 · answered by Maniaka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to say but i'd get out of the relationship, it does not sound as though it's going any where.
it also sounds as though he has given up and can't be bothered.
2007-01-28 01:16:21 · answer #5 · answered by tracey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm..... Try to make things happier.... Maybe u should get a job while he finds one...... Or he could go back to school?.?.?.?.?.?.?.?.?.?.?.?.?.?
2007-01-28 01:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by I ♥ SCHOOL! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋