my husband has been watching/seeing an increasing amount of pornography and i'm worried he doesn't love me anymore!
2007-01-28 00:59:00 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk with him about it. There is something VERY wrong if he's paying more attention to porn than you. Because if he's looking at porn, he's not showing much love to you, because the ONLY woman who's body he should want to see should be yours. Not any of these women that he will never meet that are in these pornos, which are so fake anyways.
I know how you feel. because I used to look at alot of porn, and it make my wife feel insignificant because I was paying more attention to it than to her, and she felt that I was loving porn more than her. I was wrong for putting porn before her, and it's something that took a long time for us to get over in our marriage, it almost cost us our marriage because of my addiction to porn and sex. But thankfully I got help for my sexual addiction, and we also got marriage counceling which really helped us both out alot. It helped us to resolve alot of the issues in our marriage that were bringing our marriage down, especially the issue of me looking at porn.
Your husband needs to give that garbage up, and then needs to find someone who can keep him accountable, as far as looking at porn, and things of that nature. I have a friend from my church who helps me with that. It really has made quite a difference for me.
I hope that this helps you.
Take care and God Bless
2007-01-28 01:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not blame you hun! If that was going on I would feel the same way. I believe that if a man is truly happy and completely attracted to his wife, then he won't have a reason to be watching/ looking at pornography. Sit down and have a heart to heart talk with him and tell him your feelings. If he completely disregards everything you say and continues to do what he is doing....then you might want to seek help for the 2 of you as soon as you can because this is something that is serious and can alternatively ruin your marriage. Good luck!!
2007-01-28 09:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband your concern, and ask him why is he doing it? It may not have nothing to do with his love for you. The only person, that you are going to get the straight answer from, is him. Some times you should watch it with him.
2007-01-28 09:38:36 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
loving you is not the issue,people fall in and out of love all the time even in relationships.I would feel concerned because even though watching those type movies is cool some time to add a little flavor to your relationship,regular watching will cause perverseness.Watching that kind of stuff all the time will corrupt a persons sense of normal.It's like being exposed to drugs and eventually they overwhelm you,porn will do the same.
2007-01-28 09:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by punkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with him watching porn. That doesn't have anything to do with him loving you. He's with you, isn't he? It's not like he's becoming some sex freak. Maybe its you who's making him that way. Make your sexual relationship more interesting. I'm pretty sure that would defiantly help him to put the videos down. Give him some action. If he makes it obvious to you that he's watching them, it's obviously a cry for something. I wonder what it is. . .
2007-01-28 09:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by maya 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him. Ask him what's going on. Maybe he just feels like he needs more stimulation and prefers to use pornography than to cheat on you!
2007-01-28 09:07:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watch porn,dosent mean i dont lover my wife!
She happens to be ok with it to a point!
You should communicate with him about it!, let him know your feelings on the amount of porn he looks at.
Your in a relationship, you should know the boundaries,as well as him!
Understand that men dont find porn to be as degrading as women do!AQnd rest assured he is not and you are not the only ones with this delima.
You can go to xxxchurch.com to find some guidance on this!
2007-01-28 10:11:05 · answer #7 · answered by kyle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with him and tell him how him doing this makes you feel.. I can feel your pain as i was there with my first husband and i never felt that i was good enough or that he ever loved me.... Be honest with him and ask him to please stop... If he does not and will not stop it is adultery and fornication of the marriage and you have a right to leave and divorce if this keeps happening.. I also suggest marriage counseling and or counseling for yourself in this matter.
2007-01-28 10:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn and love are two different things. Love isn't sex, and sex isn't love for men. Sex doesn't have to be an emotional connection for men. In fact it doesn't have to be anything other than a release of testoterone for them. Only some women seem to have an emotional attachment w/ EVERY sex act.
SEX is a form of relaxation and release of tension for both males and females. And porn is just an avenue towards that goal.
2007-01-28 09:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men are visually stimulated. If he is watching porn on TV or on the computer walk in and interrupt him in a sexy pair of panties and a t-shirt with no bra and watch him turn his attention to you.
2007-01-28 09:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by tomterry101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋