Are we able to pinpoint where teen parenting stems from?

Question

I read comments on here everyday blaming the parents, society, media, etc. Do we really know where teen parenting stems from though? One teen may be allowed to do as they please while another teen has to follow very strict rules. Another teen may have open and honest parents while another may have parents that won't even get into the whole "birds and the bees," talk. Does it depend on each individual and their circumstances or is there one specif sorce to blame?

Answer 1

I never got the birds and the bees talk, and i still don't have kids.

but while we're on the subject.
blame the government
blame canada


haha just kidding, but i think maybe it comes from teen's miseducation of birth control....or just a lack of caring.

sometimes teens just want to play "house" with their boyfriends. so they have a baby, not realizing that it is a life-long commitment that they may not have been ready for. There's too many reasons why.. i don't think there is just once specific source, except a lack of education and no sense of reality.

Answer 2

I think it does depend on each individual persons circumstance. There may be similarities, but no 2 are ever the same.

My parent have been together since my mum was 15 and my dad 19, they are still married today but were very strict on our upbringing and had to often sneak around behind their backs to "fit-in" with my social peers.

My sister is an accountant and I am training to be a solicitor.

However..........

I had my daughter at 17 and have raised her properly on my own and with my boyfriend (her step-dad).

You can not always blame the parents as they can not watch their children 24/7 and then again you cannot always blame the teens as it only takes one mistake to get pregnant, it's the choices they make after and their parenting skills that really matter for the next generation.

Answer 3

Its mainly biological. We are designed to have the urge to mate and for it to be pleasurable. Because our bodies are physically ready in the early teens, its an overwhelming urge.

If it wasn't for this extreme need, we would never have survived as a species. Teen preganacy was normal, without the medical intervention we have today 16 would've been the same as being 35 or 40 biologically.

Now that our survival doesn't depend on females reproducing as soon as physically ready, we teach our children to wait. Most parents teach their children about birth control methods and waiting for the right person. Despite this some teens either don't get the message, don't care about the message or just can not hold out against the hormones mother nature gave them.

Especially in this era where most of the stigma has been removed from teen pregnancy, while schools are only allowed to teach abstinance and some parents either refuse to teach their kids or don't beleive their kids are old enough- teen pregnancies rates will continue to rise.

Answer 4

I'm going to say unprotected sex.

The teen parents I knew, I can say that at least 90% (the other 10% I can't vouch for) had parents that may have cared, may have given them "the talk", but one way or another let their kids run wild and do whatever either from lack of control or lack of attention to situation. The rest I'm going to venture to say is lack of responsibility on the teen's part.
My parents were always frank with me about the subject, which I have no doubt is where my own ideas were borne from, but I also had my own set of standards and I had things I wanted, and losing control of myself or becoming a mother while in high-school was not any of those things. I had my convictions, I stuck to them. I never compromised myself to fit in, and I got more respect for doing so than all the little hookers I went to school with put together.

Answer 5

It comes from the deterioration of the family as a unit. Mothers no longer make raising their children the major focus of their lives. Most of them have no idea whether or not their young children are sexually active or not. They are too busy trying to juggle the demands of a career and a family and doing a poor job of both.
We have raised a generation of children that were cared for by people being paid minimum wage to take care of children that are not their own. We have "mother's" going back to work as early as 12 weeks and leaving their babies in the care of people who do not love them. You can be sure that these mothers are not taking the time to breastfeed their babies which is a much more complex physiological need than simply nourishment. (Some European countries pay working mother's to stay home with their babies for one year if they are breastfeeding. Contrast that to the attitude in this country)
Mothers are not mothers anymore. Women have given up their real power and been brainwashed to believe that bringing home a paycheck, no matter how small, was more important than their sacred power to bring forth life. And the men let us think it was OUR idea.......we have lost more than we could ever gain.
Women are killing their own babies in unprecedented numbers. This is the price we pay and it is only the beginning.
This is what happens when children are no longer the most important thing in a womans life. We have gotten just what we created.
Todays children and looking for love, family and acceptance wherever they can find it. Sex seems to be the first place they look.
We have forgotten that "the hand that rocks the cradle is the hand that rules the world".
When a society destroys its family unit that society is not far behind.
Just my opinion of course.

Answer 6

It all stems from having sex I suppose.

Answer 7

Like all parenting.... SEX