2007-01-28 00:11:38 · 15 answers · asked by chikku 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure. I think that big spenders at some point get tired of the spending and the part where they dont have anything saved up. I know I have found that I can find all the items that I want without having to spend big money if I am resourceful. My tastes are the same but there are things like Greeensheet, Ebay, Marshalls, Ross, TJ Max, Craigslist etc to get those same items that they have in Niemans for cheaper. I am one that cant stand to see that i paid a LOT more money for something when I didnt have to.
2007-01-28 00:20:55 · answer #1 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Why not? Marriage is about compromises. But this compromise should be from both the sides. Logical, explainable. The other person should appreciate it and understand for the harmony of the marriage, family, children and so on.
If the penny pincher relaxes a little and steps up the ladder a step and the big spender steps down and cooperates, the marriage will be fantastic.
2007-01-28 09:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by Josephene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't easy but yes, they can. If they agree that the penny pincher holds the money and that all big purchases are discussed before they are made. How we do it is I hold the money (not a penny pincher but definitely a squeezer) and anything over $50 dollars must be discussed. Always. Sometimes I give in easily (like when all the bills are paid and it looks like we won't need it any time soon) and sometimes I don't. Agree upon a limit. Like our $50. It can be any limit you both choose together. Anything above that limit must be discussed. If you agree to you buy what you want if you don't agree it isn't bought. But you discuss it. Not argue. It helps to be able to say why you want to buy something or why you do not want them to buy something.
2007-01-28 00:44:10 · answer #3 · answered by sageivyberyl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"We are proof that big spenders and penny pinchers can live together, with a lot of trust and working together. We have been happily married for two years now. "it is what i read in one of answers.In india both can stay together as we have fevicol marriages . abroad i doubt,because when we differ on natures to such an extreme than it is impossible
at last i hope i dont get a partner who is either penny pincher or extravagant
2007-01-28 01:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my personal answer is yes, I am the penny pincher in the family, my husband is the big spender. We have tried several ways to organize our finances, until we finally found one that works for us. He works a lot and I work from home for pregnancy and other children in the house reasons. He just doesn't want to have to keep up with the bills as well as work overtime. We finally agreed that I would take over the accounts, we both have our names on them, so if he needed or wanted to, he could get into them, we don't block eachother out of money situations. We have an understanding that when payday comes, he gets an agreed upon amount each paycheck to do whatever he wants with. We've had this going for several months now and we're both very happy. I am happy becuase I know the bills will get paid ontime, and he is happy because he doesn't have to "ask his wife" for money to spend. I do not ask questions on what his personl money is spent on. It honestly took us about two weeks of sitting down together and working this system out. We had to be honest with ourselves and eachother for it to work. Now we trust eachother to do as we promised regarding money. He knows that in addition to his personal money, I try to set aside a little here and there so we can have a "free day". This means that we can spontaneously got out to eat for lunch, or buy a new game at the store we both like, without having to "save up" for next time. We are proof that big spenders and penny pinchers can live together, with a lot of trust and working together. We have been happily married for two years now.
2007-01-28 00:23:24 · answer #5 · answered by mercymarie3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course it will work providing you have love and affection too . My husband has a champagne taste and a beer salary . I earn more money but it all goes into the same pot . I am frugal but don't believe in skimping if I don't have to about anything that concerns our comforts . In the beginning he had the job to pay the bills etc., but it did not work because he never had any money and the milk bill went unpaid .LOL
So, just sit down and talk it over , come to an agreement and stick to it . The tightwad has to loosen up a bit and the spender control his/her emotions .
Good Luck. You will be rich in no time flat .
2007-01-28 00:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure they can..I am the penny pincher,hubby likes to spend..Its usually not a big deal with us..He's gotten better with not spending as much tho..
2007-01-28 00:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by Shem 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, they do all the time. As long as the bills are paid, theres no reason why someone should have to leave.
2007-01-28 00:22:49 · answer #8 · answered by PfcsBaby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think they can. while one spends the other saves. They may even make an ideal couple.
2007-01-28 04:06:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, of course, but with a lot of effort I guess.
2007-01-28 00:25:23 · answer #10 · answered by Modest 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋