My bf and I have been dating over a yr. He stays with me 5 to 7 days a week. He has his own place. He gives me money toward groceries and gas. He mows the lawn, does small household repairs, does his own laundry. In a few months, I will be "hurting" financially once my child support ends. I do have a decent job. But I will still be short every month. My bf knows this. And yet, he doesn't want to hear it because he says that there is nothing that he can do to help. And he doesn't want to move in since he is not "in love" with me. I have been forced to look for a 2nd job (I live in rural area) that will work around my full time job. No luck. I might have to move several states away so that my family can help. I feel that that would be going backward, especially since I have been in this area for 12 years. If he and I lived together, it would help both of us. He knows this. Since I cannot convince him to change his mind and I love him, how do I respond? Do I just keep mum and deal alone?
2007-01-28 00:06:22 · 3 answers · asked by whoanelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know this may sound harsh but why would you want to stay with someone when they won't help you from drowning and they they can? I also think that it seems really unfair and unhealthy that you readily say you love him when his reason for not wanting to move in with you is that he isn't in love with you. Maybe you could find a church or organization that will help you cut costs or help you with clothes for the kids, school supplies, food, or help you network so that you could find a higher paying position. Is it possible for you to move to a bigger city or suburb where you could possibly get paid more or be able to find a second job? I know it seems like an awful option to move back home but maybe if you they can help you to save up some money and try to get training for a better career. Men who won't stand up and help aren't worth the energy and heartache to keep them around. The answer is to trust that it will work itself out and to trying and work your way up the ladder however you can.
2007-01-28 00:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by WhitworthChick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand how he claims to be your boyfriend and is not in love with you. I think he is just your friend with benefits if you're sleeping together. I don't think you can convince him to move in if he doesn't want to. Tell him to make a commitment or get out of your life. If he doesn't want to make a commitment as hard as it may seem you're going to have to face it alone. I don't think this guy has any love for you. Leave him, find some one better.
2007-01-28 08:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say that he's not in love with you. Why are you with someone who doesn't love you? He will never move in with you so don't push it. It is better for you to get rid of him and find someone who wants to be with you. Do you own the house? If so, is there room for a boarder? Can you make an apartment in the basement? Think of these possibilities first. You can do it. But get rid of him!
2007-01-28 08:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋