I have a 6month old daughter and have just found out that my partner cheated on me when i was 7months pregnant with her. Im absolutley heartbroken, he assures me it was a one-off mistake but i only found out because i found a txt to her on his phone last wk, saying he would txt her later sexy!! so it obviously has been going on for months. I know i cant be with him anymore but to top it off i found out 3days ago im pregnant again! i just dont know what to do, i feel its too soon to have another baby when my daughter is so young and also now i will be a single mum but i dont believe in abortion yet part of me is considering it?? but i dont think ill ever forgive myself if i got rid of it. Im just so confused, scared and lonely, i cant think straight ive got a doctors appointment at end of the wk but can anyone give me some advice before then??
2007-01-27 23:33:07 · 13 answers · asked by Dani 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Im so very sorry that this is happening to you. It must be the most horrible feeling in the world adn I hope that you have friends and family who will help you through this difficult time. You are far better than he is, you have to keep telling yourself this every day, for the sake of your sanity as well as for your children. Although it might not feel like it, you will come out a stronger person, you just have to make the first move in the morning by getting out of bed and trying to get on with things as best you can.
As for being pregnant with a second child, no one will(or should)judge you, no matter what you decide to do.I know what you mean about the whole abortion thing, i too was against it but I am not in your situation so I can not judge you if you decided to do it. It is your choice and no one elses. Im sure alot of people would sympathise with you if you decided to abort.There are so many circumstances surrounding you now , do what you think will be for the best adn dont feel suilty about it.
As for the guy, do what someone else said, and take the bastard for all he has,that might not be right but I bet it will make you feel good, if only for a little bit.Men like that dont seserve to be happy. If he truly thought that your relationship wasnt going anywhere, why not be a man and end it. Why be deceitful and immature? He's doing far more damage this way than had been truthful. it might not have made anything better feelings wise, but at least you would have known where you stood.
Anyway, i've rambled on, not sure if it makes sense, i just hope you find the strength to go on.maybe talking to a doc or just friends might help?Good luck and please let us know how you get on!
2007-01-27 23:58:50 · answer #1 · answered by brunelscooby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what u are going thro , my ex cheated on me when i was pregnant with our child, we had 3 children together it had been going on for years and i didn't know about it , u are better off without him , listen if i can bring up 3 boys on my own anyone can, its bloody hard work yes but my boys are all older now i work part time and i am study for my nvq3 ... its not all down hill ... U need to get this guy out of your life for your own sanity .... the wondering where he is , or what he is doing? whats she got that i haven't ? Is she better than me ?
The sooner u get rid of him the better ....
As far as wanting an abortion that's your personal choice , just don't do it to punish him. Do it for the right reasons not the wrong ones. Good luck xox
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2007-01-28 08:01:13 · answer #2 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
hi, i'm so sorry to hear what ur going through. it must b tough i have had this happen to me and its not nice, i was on my own with 2 girls and it is difficult but u can do it. get rid of him, he'll only do it again. i have met a fantastic partner now so u will move on, its ur choice whether u have a abortion or not but i dont think i could do it myself. its not wrong to think that way tho so dont let anybody tell u any different. have a long hard think about it and make the decision thats right for u. hope this helps xxx
2007-01-28 11:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by tonih81 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, knowing you have a six month old (and seeing how wonderful she is), could you really ever consider ending the life of your unborn child? I dont believe its a realistic option, is it?
Secondly, sad as it is, the man you are with is not worth it (the minute he cheated on you, HE LOST YOU) and you and your CHILDREN deserve better.
Are you in contact with your folks? If so, tell them whats happening and they will help. If they arent an option and you dont have a mate to turn to, have a look online, there must be a helpline etc that can assist you.
Best of luck x
2007-01-28 10:59:27 · answer #4 · answered by glitterbug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to get rid of him, he cant love you if he done that to you while you were pregnant. then you need to sit and think if you can manage another baby on your own. I was in a similar situation myself deciding whether to keep a baby or not. I made the appointment and went to the hospital for a consultation. As soon as i sat in that waiting room i knew id made my decision, i couldnt go through with it. I know have a healthy 3year old that i wouldnt change for the world.
2007-01-28 08:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im afraid u will have to let him go if hes done it once he will do it again. Im not on for abortion myself but there is alot of single parents out there and they do cope it will get easier i know u dont want to here this at the minute. Good luck what ever u decide to do
2007-01-28 08:53:41 · answer #6 · answered by Wildwagon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u have 2 start being really strong now for u and the children,get rid of this jerk,make sure that u have everything done on a legal basis and take him for everything hes got,monthy payment for the children is a must.it makes me mad when guys have families and think they can do what the hell they want,if they leave so does the responsibility of child raising for them.come girls we deserve better than this
2007-01-28 07:39:38 · answer #7 · answered by DEBBIE M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down and really think this though my mom was in the same boat and she's fine now only difference was my brother was 5 months. I hate trying to think what would happen if would've decided she couldn't handle me and it was too early to be pregnant again. If you really can't handle it there's always adoption. Like you said yourself, you don't think you'll ever forgive yourself if i got rid of it
By the way just f.y.i I have a step sister who was born 2 1/2 months before me. Consider yourself lucky
2007-01-28 07:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
well just let him go. you don't need a man that hurts you. you have your daughter, she will give you the strength you need to move on. if god sent you another one, well let it born. live your life for your children and forget about that person who hurt you, he does not worth any tears of yours. I can imagine how hard it is right now, but you will move on and forget about all the pain he is causing you. later on in life you will be happy with your kids, and you won't remember that he existed in your life.
2007-01-28 10:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by itah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are so many single mums out there dont worry about that you will be fine try confronting your man about the message and you definately need to let him know your pregnant
2007-01-28 07:39:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋