I always use to feel very inferior about myself. Especially in love. I alway feel that I am not fit for love. I want to behave very manly. How can I become very bold, manly with self confidence. What should I do to develop my personality (esp Look)?
2007-01-27 22:40:17 · 10 answers · asked by Danndy 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
nobody can make you feel inferior with out your consent.
Eleanor Roosevelt
2007-01-27 23:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by jamie F. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, nobody is inferior about every perspective of life. Therefore, it would be better to focus on the development of those aspects of life that we are good at. Understand that no one is perfect and people you look up to (or feel that are superior) are really normal people and probably feel inferior about some aspect in life too. It would be good if you are able to come to terms with the fact that we are all flawed individuals. For the rest of your post, I'm not certain what you mean when you say that you are not fit for love. Is it a fear of commitment, a fear to express your feelings or a fear of accepting other's love as you feel you are not good enough. I think coming to terms with who you really are is important in not feeling inferior. Pretending to be manly is not going to help if you feel lousy inside. Manliness comes from a certain self-confidence, almost arrogance that people have. Thus, my advice would be to come to terms with who you really are and develop those aspects of life that you are good at.
2007-01-28 07:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by faure872000 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The very word "inferior" means you are comparing yourself to someone else. Just be yourself. Develop your character - truth, honesty, respect, peace, love, joy, self-discipline etc, etc. Your personality will grow out of the character traits you develop internally. Don't worry about the outside as much as you do about your inside.
2007-01-31 14:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by wd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to change your look..get a makeover! You want a personality.. go hang out with people or women just as friends, ask questions and be social. It not a date..its just finding out what the sort of people you are attracted to like to do and the personalities they prefer. Some chicks like the bad boy and others the good ones. Your probably not the bad boy or you could choose which girl you wanted without fear of rejection. =P
Women can smell fear, but they love confidence (not to be confused with cockyness). You can only be confident in who you are, but that doesnt mean you cant change your habits to be someone they fall in love with. Women also want someone who will listen to them too. They want someone who is strong enough that can protect them, but not keep them from being them. You have to do something to make yourself feel proud of first. Just like muscles, you have to break yourself down before you can build yourself up. if you know her name, just introduce yourself and tell her that your just interested in finding out what is her ideal type of guy...or just ask her out! Just because a girl says no the first time doesnt mean she might change her mind later on. Its better to find out then to never ask at all too. You might want to add, 'It was nice to meet you. I hope you've give me the chance to again sometime' just to be polite. This is only if you want love. This wont work if you want just sex because you dont care if you see her again, and you wont convince her if its the 1st time.
Next time, just tell her.. Im not ready to give up on you yet, or on love. Its not a line..because she might reject you or give you another opportunity..but hopefully you've done some homework to find out why you failed in the first place. Yet just understand if the girl doesnt like you..its her decision, and you two were probably just not meant to be.
2007-01-28 07:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sore wa himitsu desu! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By giving to others and worrying about their welfare first, your self-esteeem will rise like a pressure cooker at boiling point.
The self satisfaction you feel after helping them will outweigh any feelings of inadequacy.
In a romantic setting, by doting on the one you love or from whom you seek attention will make you feel manly and proud of yourself.Paying attention to little details regarding her needs, wishes or wants will make you feel in control and like a knight in shining armor.
2007-01-28 07:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by nildavioleta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people need others to accept them before they can accept themselves. Try getting a makeover, ask people what they think, start there, listen to the positive, accept the negative[but don't let THAT bother you].
Getting confidance is somthing you must do yourself, but to gain the first few steps, you need someone else. Does that make sense?
2007-01-28 06:50:55 · answer #6 · answered by Miko 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dig in , work with your hand , a craft or so...love isn the core , you are ..put that aside n thnk abt u..wat flows i got , how to work on each to get over them all,by time you become someone special that others seek through you.
another thng, sayin smthn to yrself over n over makes u believe in it, in neuro programming you speak to yrself well always, has a very exceptional effect...
2007-01-28 08:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by skepti m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when will the time come, when you decide to develp your personality? you are the only one who can develop you..others just help you ....Go out in the world and do something. I gotta go to bed. peace.
2007-01-28 10:41:06 · answer #8 · answered by mhshhaduw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Study to shew thyself "approved" unto God.
Approved is not both dis added to approved.
The dis(law) is what Moses added to Grace.
Law makes His Grace to be "no more grace".
The GRACE of our Lord Jesus Christ with you all. Amen.
2007-01-28 07:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, you just need to decide so. You can do anything you want.
2007-01-28 15:07:22 · answer #10 · answered by Barbara V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋