My enigmatic life ?

Question

So here I am , penning my feelings about life . I am 22 , but things are never the same as before . I dont talk much to ppl , cocooning to my room , hardly calling up friends , talking to parents ... its just me - the lone me . I never used to talk much in my younger days as well .But now it has gotten worse , I dont even feel like talking .

I am working away from my home and I just came back for couple of days , been in the house for 2 days , leaving tomm ...waiting for my next return . I dont like my curren job - its a high paying job , but not my taste as I like to do something in IT industry ...I got this job first and hence decided to try it out .
Has anyone felt the same ? I want to be a lil more social and have more friends enjyo life ....
Gimme some tips share ur thoughs , I want to come out of this shelll.....

Thnx

nice point buddy , I am thinking ab training myself for the sorta job I need...

Answer 1

Well, the first step is that you have to want to change, and you do, so that's good. The next step is to actually change and that can be tricky, I myself have schizophrenia, which started out as social anxiety and depression. I never left the house, didn't speak much, was depressed... eventually I had a bit of a breakdown and stopped speaking at all for a year, had no emotions, couldn't express my feelings, etc, etc.

Sorry, this isn't meant to scare you, this is just my experience.

Do you get sad often? Lack motivation? It could be depression, so seeing your doctor might help. I think you might just need someone to talk to. Write everything down, maybe start an online journal to get your thoughts out. It's also a way to meet interesting people (say, at www.livejournal.com, you can meet people in your area/same interests, etc) and keep a record of how you're feeling.

At least you have a job, though. That's a start. Take an IT course if you want to, there are online ones. There are lots of IT jobs out there. maybe try and set little goals each day, "I will go out for an hour," even if it's just to some public place like a park to just get some sunshine. Then build up to more things, like smiling at people, making eye contact maybe saying hello. When you buy, say, a drink, try an add something apart from, "Can I have a lemonade please?" Like, "It's a nice day, hey?" You know, little things like that. It might lead to osme more conversation and it's all good practice. It all sounds rather lame, I know, but I'm 23 and I've been through some terrible, terrible lows and I've gotten thorugh them and now almost have a normal life... it just involves trail and error, and pushing yourself, and starting out small.

It's important to keep communication up with a number of people somehow, so write, talk to people on chat programs, try to talk to your parents and friends. write letters, get a pen or e-pal, just keep in touch, always have some form of socialising going for you, then work yourself up to talking to people in real life. Don't be put off or saddened if you feel you say the wrong thing, most people won't have even noticed. Just keep at it. Good luck and I really hope this has helped, even just a little.

Answer 2

You sound as though you are suffering from depression which needs diagnosis and treatment by a G.P. When you are feeling a little more positive try to identify what it is thats making you so unhappy and what you can do to change it. Can you train for the job you would prefer, whilst still working in your current job? When you're feeing more positive you should feel more sociable.

Answer 3

Jeez, I'm sure it's a complicated world for you! I think what you have to do is keep positive thinking. There's nothing ugly and bad in this world. =)