How do you get over the disappointment of a broken marriage?

Answer 1

it's a process, takes time, there is a grief process we all go through, finally after awhile we do accept it, but it takes some time to get to that point. finally when it is over, and we regain our self worth, we finally see that person we were grieving over wasn't really all that, we wonder why we got so upset over someone like that. just don't let it rob u of a future, don't let what was done to u define who u are, and counseling will help to make u see the truth, and get out of denial. life is disappointing and sometimes we get caught up with the wrong person, and have to suffer as a result. it does get easier, the pain does diminish, but just like everything else we learn, it's a process. how quickly we learn is up to us, we just have to accept it, and trust in god that he may know more than we do. good luck

Answer 2

Everyone on here has good answers, i really like the one shack up with a stripper for 6 months, the best way would be to just let go. Letting go is the hardest thing to do and it doesnt matter if you were in the wrong or she was in the wrong, somehow someway you are going to have to find it in your heart to let her go and everything you had in the marriage. Go do things you have never done before, go to places you have never been, there is so much out there, and eventually you will let go of every disappointment of your broken marriage. Good luck

Answer 3

Find your next ex-wife. LOL Just kidding to try to cheer you up. Honestly, it can be anywhere from disappointing to extremely painful. The first thing to realize is that you are not alone. Unfortunately, the divorce rate is too high. But if others can handle it so can you. You have to realize that the best thing that could come of it did. It ended. This gives you the ability to find the person you were MEANT to be with. This may seem out of reach at the moment but I can assure you from experience that it can happen. I was devastated by divorce. Now I am engaged to the perfect person for me. I would not have met him had I not gotten the divorce and plodded through the pain I had to endure. Keep your heart open and count on your friends and family to lift your spirit until your one true partner comes into your life. It will happen. Believe it!

Answer 4

You never "get over" the end of a marriage, if you loved the spouse. But, the old saying that time heals Is correct. As time passes, the pain does gradually diminish, until eventually, it becomes just a sad memory. For me, the hardest thing was to accept that I couldn't exact vengeance for things my wife had done. When her lover called me, and showed me photos to prove she was cheating, I wanted to kill her. I loaded my rifle, and was about one ounce of trigger pressure from firing a bullet into her head. But, my children were asleep in our home, and I couldn't do that to them. So, I've been forced to allow her her live. THAT has been the hardest thing to accept. Even now, after 15+ years, every time I see my ex, I regret not pulling the trigger. I did effectively express my disappointment to two of her lovers, and that did help, but her misdeeds, I've had to live with.

Answer 5

A failed marriage doesnt make you a failure, it just means that you tried to make something work but it wasnt meant to be. Remember that there are plenty more fish in the sea. And there is sure to be good times coming your way soon, in the mean time try keep your chin up and stay strong. I wish you good luck and all the best for this exciting new stage of your life.

Answer 6

Try not to look back and believe that someone else is out there for you even if you don't want that now. Eventually you will be forced to move on even though it feels uncomfortable or else you will become bitter and destroy potential future relationships. If you must look back stay focused on the good times and try to lock them away with your other fond memories. Live for now and look forward to tomorrow and leave your broken marriage in the past where it belongs.

Answer 7

Recognise what you did wrong what she did wrong and commit to bettering yourself only. Forgive what was not meant to be. Find local entertainment of your liking and go. Have fun and learn how to be yourself again. Meet new people and the baggage of your lost marriage will soon be a distant memory. Keeping busy with other people helps fastest. Do not take your feelings about the lost marriage to new places/people. Leave yourself less time everyday at home to think about it

Answer 8

Don't see yourself as a failure because your marriage failed. I been through it, it is very disappointing. Go for counselling to deal with the "loss and grief issues" It is very hurtful and it is a sad time, for me it was a very huge betrayal (My ex got a cheque for $30,000.00 - he packed up his bags & I was last to know he was secretly having an affair)

I connected with an old flame a week later. I travelled lots I also cried lots I talked on the phone quite a bit I was very lonely
Learn a new sport or hobbie to occupy your time volunteer

Answer 9

Well the most obvious answer would be to go to a foriegn country drink yourself half to death and have sex with as many hot chicks as possible.... Problem solved and you may end up with a huge smile on your face.. :) Its hard not to think of someone you once love bro, let alone deal with... Do things that you enjoy doing, things that will keep your mind occupied, time will make it less painfull....

Answer 10

made not making the same misstake in your new relationship also learn all you can and move on i know i was marry for 13years and three kids and she went back to a old boyfriend i all most died but 4 years later i get marry to a must young wife also i have my two boys and i can smile again and you will too but its take time good luck