no matter who they are?
2007-01-27 21:21:31 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It depends a bit on the situation. If you are talking about a relationship, then yes. There should be mutual respect and support. It is especially bad if someone makes you dobt yourself. This is cruel. Validation is a necessary part of a healthy relationship. That said, if you doubt yourself due to low self esteem, and not necessarily based on real things they are doing, then perhaps it is necessary to take a step back and resolve your own issues.
If you are talking about family, then perhaps more patience is due. It really depends on the extent to which they hurt you. A friend should probably be given more chances, too, but ultimately should provide you with support and understanding, as well.
2007-01-27 21:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by JustTalking 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that first things first.. you should be honest about yourself, even if it hurts or it doesn't make you feel comfortable with your self-imagine.
What is the reason for which that person makes you feel bad ? Do you see something of yourself and admiting it is very difficult ?
If so.. then rejecting this person will only cause you rejecting others more.. in different life circumstances, but the cause is not the person.. it's an unsolved issue about yourself.
If this is not the case and discussing the feeling and reasons for it with the respective person does not help, then cut the person out, he/she's not one you would like to waste your time with.
2007-01-28 09:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by s_chimera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep....send them to the time out corner.. no matter who they are... If they are impacting the way you feel, then you don't need those types of people around you... Make yourself feel good by having positive people around you until you are strong enough to not let those who say things that make you doubt yourself bother you.. In the long run, it will be you who is the better person. It doesn't need to be forever, only the time it takes to let them really know how you feel when they do stupid things..
2007-01-28 05:30:02 · answer #3 · answered by shazzy_68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would very much depend on who they are. If it was a partner then yes, if it was a close family member I'd first exhaust the possibility of fixing the problem. I find telling people that I find their behaviour unacceptable and being specific about what I will accept, sorts the wheat from the chaff. Either they'll change because they want to stay in your life, or they won't change and you choose not to have them in your life. Taking control puts you in a win/win position. Good luck.
2007-01-28 05:27:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't. You just don't let them get to you like that. You have your own mind which only you can control.. You know yourself. Just tell yourself you know what they are saying is not true. Also keep in mind that a lot of the time when people say things to another person they are often saying how they actually feel about themselves. In short, don't let it all bother you.
2007-01-28 13:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't sustain your self-esteem with this person in your life. They have to go. If you doubt yourself , you become completely stuck. Hopefully it's not your parents or something, but the person has to be out of your life. I would at least offer an explanation if it's an important element in your life and maybe someday things could change.
2007-01-28 05:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before severing ties, it would be best to let that person know that they are making you feel badly about yourself. If they continue with that type of behavior after that, then it would be best for you to take a break from them for awhile.
2007-01-28 05:25:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to understand what is the problem and if possible make a open discussion otherwise stay out.
Remember onething a relation can cut within a second but to build a relation..........?
2007-01-28 05:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by heybapi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its depeand on what i did to them. or did they make me feel such feeling always. some people feel happy when make you feel sorry or bad about yourself. here the sense or mind should take the action. if they don't deserve your freindship just forget and leave them. but if they are real friends but there is misunderstanding it can be solve (but I think the real friend never ever make me feel bad what so ever happen) sorry for bad english.it doesnot my tongue language
2007-01-28 05:47:07 · answer #9 · answered by acer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Tell them you don't want their negativity. Say i love/respect you but your doubt and rejection isn't helping me become a productive and successful person. Ask them to respect your feelings, and then if they refuse to, then it might be time to say goodbye.
Its entirely possible they are making you feel bad because they feel badly about themselves.
2007-01-28 05:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Lynnix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋