I am thirty five and tired of aunt puttin me down?

Question

My aunt is very controlling. I am financially depenedent on dad and mother. When my aunt hears of a decison i make whether it involves her or not. If she does not like what i have decided she waltzed up to them and goes well-------wants to do this but i think she should do this and it just unnerves me. Christmas i was getting a couch from my mother. Her brothers ex wife. for christmas. Auntie decidethat mom did not need to give me a couch that she had a blue couch that shewould give me. When i said i wanted to look at it, she said well i dont see how you can turn it down im g8iving it to you. So when she was at dads she said well sue was going to give her a couch but i told her would give her a couch sue does not need to give her a couch. She did this again when she saw mom. I dont want her couch. She got pissed off and . She went over my head I was going to take online cource and she decided she would take me to calss.instead of So she announced it to dad that i did not need to that

First of all if you know so much about handicapped people then kindly amputate your legs and see how far you go. Till then fellows you dont know a thing to be condescending
Secondly. aunt does not do this to be kind. When you make a concious effort to on everything come up with a better idea or different idea on something that does not involve you and effects no one in room and bring it up like it does andd needs to be discussed is condescending No one in family can stand her when she does this. spend more time with her than anyone and i appreciate what she does for me but on the same token I think i deserve not to be treated like an idiot cause it makes her feel special. Its one thing when it effects her but for her to constantly interfere when it does not cost her or anyone else for that matter aa dime is nothing but mean

I feel so sorry for you that you heard the word handicapped and suddenly knew everything mst be my fault. You walk a day in my shoes, and then lecture

To the imbicil who instructed me on how to get off my heine and apply for ss and housing, where in my letter did i not say i was recieving ss or housing for that matter]

I suggest he get off his high horse and go pay to have his ankles crushed if he wants to impress me with his infinate knowlege of my disability which oh by the way he never bothered to find out severity before condescendiung


Sir, you are a completed fool.

I clearly did not ask for advice on handicap because probably most of you are not handicapped so your kinda well talking out of behind. and every handicapped person is different. for those non handicapped people who want to instruct, well maybe god will put you in a wheelchair so you can be a beacon to the world. till that day your like a kindergardner lecturing a proffessor. The question was how to handle aunt which is a behavioral question not on how to be handicapped. Sadly the people who lectured me actually thought they had something to add with no experice what so ever. I know all about ss and all about programs thanks for sharing your two seconds of info. I am sure you know that after thirty five years of handicapped i had no idea about that. Geee your la lifesaver

Answer 1

LOL . My aunt was the same damn way always putting her nose where it didn't belong so what I did every time i would see her is pinch her on the butt after awhile she got the message she probably thought i was insane but it work,t. But you know now that I think back I sure do miss that old woman.

Answer 2

If you are as handicapped as you say you are, then you will probably qualify for Social Security and Section Eight/Housing Choice voucher program where one third of your income is for rent. Get off your heinie and check it out--it can be done online.

As for your Aunt she either has no life and needs to feel useful or the rest of your family are whimps for letting her push them around. She wouldn't do it if she couldn't get away with it.

Answer 3

Why are you financially reliant on your parents?I think you should be able to stand alone.For some reason your aunt is interfering(and being allowed to)in family matters. Talk with your parents and explain that this is causing friction between you and them,and aunt and you.Tell them you'll be more comfortable with decisions reached amicably without your aunts' interferance

Answer 4

Maybe your parents dont want to come right out and say,"hey you are 35 why are you still financially depending on us?" Your aunt maybe trying to give you a hint and protect your parents money.