I'm really concerned about my cousin.
she is out of control her mum was a druggo and her dad was too.
my grand mother took custody of her and now she is turning 26 in october the same with me. she is smoking and drinking and my grandmother can't control her.
my uncle has raised her well and she calls him dad. she moved ou the other day becasue she has a curfew and she has now got a 19 year old boyfriend.
she has been sexually active many times and i don't want her throwing away her life at 16. like my other cousin.
she is still going to school but doesn't go to learn but goes to smoke and have a good time. she doesn't have a job and is living with her 15 year old friend and her deaf mum who is barely home.
please help me now my uncle is worried and sad.
2007-01-27 19:49:46 · 5 answers · asked by Millie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Worry about u, not your crazy cousin let her live her life and u live yours
2007-01-30 12:17:27 · answer #1 · answered by Viki M. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she is only 16 and has a 19 year old boyfriend there are laws against that. Is she on birth control?? It sounds like she doesn't like herself and is doing some self destructive things. Taking chances she shouldn't be. Being a teenager is hard. She might be having a hard time because of the way she feels about her mom and dad. Life in general. Your uncle needs to call her 15 year old friend and tell them that they need to make her leave, that he is calling the police and that they can be arrested for harbouring a minor. The biggest thing you can do is pray for her. Ask God to protect her and help her with the problems in her life. It sounds like she needs help. This is very serious.
2007-01-28 04:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by supersweetfungal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you're really worried, but your cousin is not your responsibility. Please don't take this all on as your problem. She is making her own choices. The best thing you can do is make the most of your life.
Certainly, your uncle can search out solutions. He can speak with the counselors at her school to get a start. He can ask them for some resources for her - does she need to go through a drug/alcohol treatment program, see a counselor, go away to a private school... But I believe the adults in your cousin's life are the ones who need to address this.
2007-01-28 12:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by Shrieking Panda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are watching your cousin throw her life away. One thing you can do is make sure to not throw your own life away. Be smart, get good grades, talk about your future and make sure the future you plan is a good one with high goals. Then - there is just a chance - that she will watch you make changes in your own life, she will be impressed with your intelligence (you don't have to be a genius, just rational) and she will attach a little more importance to your words. If you are really good at what I just described, she may come to you for advice!
2007-01-30 20:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your putting all the stress on yourself. If you keep worrying about her, it's going to make you sick. I know you love her, she is family, but if she wont listen and wants to ruin her life, then let her learn from her mistakes on her own.
Maybe smoking and drinking makes her feel better. She has been through alot of pain huh? She needs help and fast. If she dosn't stop, she can get really hurt...or worst, death.
2007-01-28 04:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by Echo♠ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋