Revenge....Or Not?

Question

I really liked this guy, but he told my friend that we could never be together. I'm so heartbroken right now. As I'm typing, tears are flowing down my cheeks. I can't believe he played with my feelings.
Why did he have to lead me on?He could have just told me from the start that we could never be more than just friends.

I feel so hurt and upset. I feel like using the guilty approach and telling him myself that I like him and that I'm sorry I ever wasted my time on him. Should I do that?Or just ignore him from now on?
Delete his number from my cell?Lose contact with him?Or what??

Answer 1

I have dealt with the same crap! Do NOT let him think he's anything special. Ignore him and forget him. Don't give him the cold shoulder or he'll know you're mad. But treat him as if he isn't there and if you must approach him in any way, treat him normal like you don't really know him. Teach him a lesson. Don't let him know you're upset or give a care about him. Hang in there, he isn't worth anything.

Answer 2

No, I do not think that the guilty approach will make a difference, it will just make it where you two will never be friends as well. I would go ahead and delete his number from your cell, and wait for him to make the next move. Do not chase him down to do it. I understand from your question, that you are very hurt. Give it some time, and once you are over the hurt, it won't be so bad. I am sorry that this has happened to you.

Answer 3

Is ur frnd true . Hw on the earth he tells some jerk and she comes to share it with you quick.dont get panicked. What revenge ? In case you hv another bf be a sport and choose.
For this relationship, be yourself let him wait upon you , never hurry up meeting his deadlines. Make a good girl outt a you. You are not lost till he tells or shies away from you.
+ Keep contingency plans , tears wont help.
Get outta blue you will get another even if he is lost.
The world is full of guys.

Answer 4

Revenge may feel better at the moment, but it majorly screws with your karma.

If he was leading you on like that it may be he's not really worth your time. On the other hand, how trusted is this friend? Girls are catty and you might wanna find out from the source.

If you go to him crying and throwing guilt you look weak and pathetic. If this is true and he was leading you on, put your head up and move on. Don't stroke his ego anymore by letting him see that he hurt you.

Answer 5

Let him go. If you try to guilt trip him, you'll look very desperate and that will only reaffirm his reasons for not wanting to be with you. The best revenge is living well. Sure, he led you on and that's not right but what goes around, comes around. Don't confront him about anything. Be mature and just delete his number and ignore him. If he says "hi", just say hi back and leave it at that. If he doesn't try to talk to you, leave it alone.

Answer 6

My Friend Delilah,

Sometimes men are such idiots. They continue to date women even if they don't see them in their future. It's stupid and they are silly. I understand how you feel because it happened to me a long time ago. I sailed in the same boat. But I did something stupid, I tried to kill myself over it. I can very sincerely say that it was the most stupidist thing I've ever done and if I could take it back, I would.

You need to be strong. Just let it go. Now you know where you stand in his future, it's time you phase him out and focus on your life, your career and your happiness elsewhere. You are a strong and beautiful woman, don't ever forget that. It's hard to hear now, but time is your healer.

If you need to talk, always remember you can get in touch with me at [e-mail].

Take care because I care. God bless you.

Answer 7

Don't act on your feelings to seek revenge. Leave it alone. He will get what he deserves from someone else. I know it hurts (I've been there), but the best you can do is delete his cell and ignore him for the rest of your life. He's a loser anyway... you deserve much better. If you fight back and make a scene, it will only make you look desperate...

Answer 8

A lot of times guy's will just say things (girls too) when they're being cool or cocky in front of other people and not really mean them. I'd contact him and ask him if he was serious or if it was just a weak moment of not knowing what else to say. It happens sometimes.

Sounds like you really like him. I would not give up hope just yet. People make mistakes.

Answer 9

How do you know he told your friend, that is hear say, did she record him, maybe she is seeking revenge on you, maybe she wants him for herself... I would not even mention your friend to him, i would just be direct and ask him. how does he treat you, is he nice to you and if so did you assume he wants more from you than he orginally intended your friendship to be, NOOOO i would not seek revenge.. you cannot lead a heart to love you. it happens in time, you felt your own love from your heart, thats why you fell for him.. what i would do is just tell him, that you have been thinking about him and that you just want to be friends, and slowing end it. you met someone during that time that you are friends and you want to be fair with your new boyfriend so you have to end your friendship with him. it is always good to end in good terms.. and if he tells you that he loves you, and he does not want to end with you, then ask him, why he told your best friend what she said to you... and if he says he did and has a reason, just end it..... delete his number and change your number so you dont have to hear his lieing words again. it is better to spend 30 dollars and not give him your new number again..but if he says he never did tell her, then bring her to him and watch there faces to see who is lieing....

Answer 10

Tell him how you feel.It is not about revenge or guilt. You have the right to let him know how he hurt you but also tell him he helped you because you know what not to look for in a man. Best wishes sweetie.