i had a close gf of nearly 12 years.knew her since high school.Got along well at that point of time but as time goes by,finding myself growing up mentally and emotionally and she's still stuck where she was!At 16,she was scared to even ask sales assistants for a new piece when she goes shopping or 2 even order frm Mc Donalds! We are in our mid 20s now.Aside from her being unconfident, very very blur person, dependant, child-like and undriven person, she is one of the nicest person i've known and she is a very genuine person who has a gd heart.But I simply cant deal with her at this age.It made me not respect her coz I believe a woman shd be confident and driven and smart.She has never had a bf or hardships so I dun talk much to her abt rship or real problems.Its like having a very lil sis!She s the sort who goes clubbing n in the last min realised she had only $10 or bring a digi cam for outing with a flat batt!Its silly!I exploded n told her off recently.she ended d fship.was i wrong?
2007-01-27 19:36:18 · 7 answers · asked by Wish 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Guess I did talk to her about it... so many times... but in a matter of a week, she s back to her old self. I seriously dont have time to nurture her or be a mom.
2007-01-27 19:56:59 · update #1
The last straw is when we did an online biz together and I find myself doing most of the work and if i delegate a lil task to her, she ll definitely screw up or ask me lotsa questions that i rather do myself. That's my boiling point and y i exploded. Its been nearly 2 weeks and she didnt bother contacting me. I dont blame her. I dunno whether i shd be feeling bad. A mutual friend of ours, whom we also noe for 12 years was on my side telling me, she had long ago call it quits being her friend coz she's sick of 'babysitting'.
2007-01-27 20:01:13 · update #2
I can understand your frustration with her. I may be way off base because obviously I don't know your friend, but she sounds very dependent on you. And she may be dependent on you because she has self-esteem and self-confidence issues. Perhaps anxiety issues as well?? Have you ever had a serious conversation with her about her dependency/anxiety issues. Maybe, as a friend of 12 years who still cares, you could help her find a therapist to work out her issues if you feel it's that serious.
2007-01-27 20:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by shaunaxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have just sat her down and had a chat to her about what you were feeling. A 12 year friendship has just gone now because you had it all bottled up and didnt say anything to her... You should call her and apologize, but talk to her like an adult - even tho she doesnt act like one - she still is one. Good luck!
2007-01-28 03:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you were with her for 12 years or for 12 days. Time isn't what you measure a relationship by, it's what you did in that time.
2007-01-28 03:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by blueJay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you didnt like snap at her when u broke up with her then i guess u werent that mean, but u should of talked 2 her before that and tried to boost up her self-confidence, i don't know, it was really all ur choice about leaving her. you did the right thing... i think
2007-01-28 03:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by ~Val~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes somewhere.Friends of 12 years,it shouldnt have ended that way.
2007-01-28 03:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, although you were mean! I hope that has given her something to work on but if that doesn't wake her up, we can all wish her the best of luck! I guess she had it coming!
2007-01-28 09:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u weren't wrong. there can't be any friendship or more if u lost your respect for a person
2007-01-28 03:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋